Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head

This is another excellent resource for anyone who suspects or knows they’re entangled in a sticky narcissistic web. Thanks to Shahida Arabi for this valuable post, and thanks to Jamie at Sophia’s Children for bringing it to my attention.

In terms of Triangulation, it gets realllly interesting when you find yourself in the middle of two narcissists working their own, mutually exclusive agendas. The agendas may share nothing in common on the surface, but they nevertheless leave you feeling confused and disempowered. Hmmmm!

That’s what most people (unbeknownst to them) experience on the world stage, too, with “opposing” political party leaders, warring agendas and all too convenient “solutions.” These Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head are powerful and confusing enough when they come at you from a single narcissist, but they get even more (un)Fun House mirrored when multiple relationships snag you coming, going and spinning.

Gaining clarity is difficult but necessary, and going inside yourself or –especially — outside in Nature helps to remind you who you are and what feels natural, healing and real. I’m sending everyone healing and love as we unwind the ties that bind — replacing them with a *natural* ebb and flow.

Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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In popular culture, the term “narcissistic” is thrown about quite loosely, usually referring to vanity and self-absorption. This reduces narcissism to a common quality that everyone possesses and downplays the symptoms demonstrated by people with the actual disorder. While narcissism does exist on a spectrum, narcissism as a full-fledged personality disorder is quite different.

People who meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder or those who have traits of Antisocial Personality Disorder  can operate in extremely manipulative ways within the context of intimate relationships due to their deceitfulness, lack of empathy and their tendency to be interpersonally exploitative. Although I will be focusing on narcissistic abusers in this post, due to the overlap of symptoms in these two disorders, this post can potentially apply to interactions with those who have ASPD to an extent.

It’s important in any kind of relationship that we learn to identify the red flags when interacting with people who display malignant narcissism and/or…

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6 responses to this post.

  1. Thanks for passing along Shahida’s excellent article, Laura. And the ‘house of mirrors’ metaphor is just perfect, both in terms of personal relationships with these personality types/behaviors and also the cultural/world stage. Good one! ~ Jamie

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  2. Thanks and love, Jamie! The old one-two (and now three) “punch” hits again. Of course, I think of it more like a punch BOWL from which we take hits of superfood berry juice, but that’s just because I like partying better than fighting. 🙂 Thanks for continuing this important discussion. Freeing ourselves from narcissistic abuse and illusions is one of the most powerful things we can do as individuals and as a culture.

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  3. Shared as a reblog on my blog site Laura, this info is so important especially on the world stage……theater, puppet ring…circus, whatever we want to call it right now.

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  4. Thank you for sharing this!

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