Here are three excellent narcissism resources for anyone personally involved in oppressive, dehumanizing, soul-sucking relationships. If you don’t think you have this in your personal life, please consider watching the videos anyway, as our world is currently being destroyed because of societal norms that value and follow “leaders” who are really narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths. From a collective standpoint, we need to recognize the signs and know how to extract ourselves from these situations. In a world of extreme change, let’s become wise enough not to fall for the “new boss, same as the old boss.”
“Don’t Get Fooled Again” Red Flags of Narcissistic Relationships:
From YouTube description:
1. do you frequently find their comms confusing/artfuly vague or deceptive?
2. too good to be true
3. multiple mask changing
4. fantasy of self
5. reframing/gaslighting
6. too deep too soon (whirlwind romance)
7.hypercrtical of others
8. lack of respect for boundaries, treating people with contempt
“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”—Malcolm S. Forbes.
9. Never wrong, never say sorry
10. total lack of empathy
Step 1: check if you were emotionally abused and/or unconsciously modelled an abusive relationship template
Step 2: check for people pleaser syndrome/ the belief that “love is drama”
Step 3: LEARN THE RED FLAGS
Step 4. Decide and Commit
Step 5: Take Consistent Action/ Get Coaching
http://www.spartanlifecoach.com
How to Leave a Narcissist:
*** This one is so valuable, because it walks you through the different stages of leaving a narcissist. Highly important in helping you to recognize where you are in the process:
Sociopath or Narcissist –Who Cares? Get Out!
(This one really gets to the issue of giving narcissists the benefit of the doubt, and moving beyond that to standing up.)
Laura Bruno's Blog 
Posted by Dawn Vierra on January 22, 2015 at 3:59 pm
Wonderful and so beneficial. Sharing on FB and reblogging. Thank you Laura! big hugs
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Posted by laurabruno on January 22, 2015 at 4:37 pm
Thanks and hugs, Dawn!
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Posted by sophiaschildren on January 22, 2015 at 4:40 pm
“Narcissist or Sociopath … who cares?” That’s very amusing and there’s some truth to it, too. Thanks for sharing these great resources, Laura. As we know from experience as well as consulting with others, things like this are really, really helpful in recognizing patterns and disentangling/liberating from them. I’ll spiral back around to the ‘Withholding’ post and include the link to this post in it. Love, Jamie
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Posted by laurabruno on January 22, 2015 at 5:01 pm
All this linking and interlinking is beginning to remind me of the description of a Destiny Knot I recently painted into an old portal door. “Carried as a symbol of Hope and Faith, it is believed that once a person comes to a certain time in their lives, it is said that the knot will then unwind, showing you the true path your life must take.” Winding and unwinding … Much Love, Laura
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Posted by Empath & Sensitives: ‘Withholding’ as a Toxic Tactic | Sophia's Children on January 22, 2015 at 4:43 pm
[…] the Out of the Fog site or by following the narcissistic supply link for a perspective on that, and see Laura’s fresh post for more resources for recognizing […]
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Posted by sophiaschildren on January 22, 2015 at 5:07 pm
Indeed, Laura, and that’s such a beautiful phrase, symbol, and metaphor … the Destiny Knot. It’s enjoyable to cross-pollinate and link helpful resources and insights, for sure.
I was thinking after reading this post and our sharings on the Withholding and Narcissistic Supply conversation — it’s ironic that Narcissistic Personality Disorder was slated for removal from the update on the psychology industry guidebook, the DSM (while ‘daydreaming’ was up for being added), just at the time when research was and is showing a pretty hefty increase in Narcissism and narcissistic behavior, which is also marked by a low to non-existent level of empathy, etc.
So resources like this one are maybe as important as ever to help raise the awareness. I’m happy to link back to it. 🙂
Love,
Jamie
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Posted by laurabruno on January 22, 2015 at 7:46 pm
Wow! I can’t say I am surprised. They have pathologized pretty much all human emotions, but are on all out campaigns to normalize pedophilia and NPD. “Yep, move along, nothing to see here, folks. Your dear leaders will take care of you. Fear not. We have pills for every emotion or concern. Don’t worry your useless eater little heads about any of this.” Just wow. Yes, waking up is more important than ever!
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Posted by Kieron on January 23, 2015 at 12:46 am
Can’t let anyone daydream. Might get ideas for undermining, overthrowing, sidestepping, end-running, etc. /snark
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Posted by laurabruno on January 24, 2015 at 4:04 pm
Exactly, Kieron! Daydreaming is quite powerful. 😉
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Posted by Dawn Vierra on January 23, 2015 at 1:59 am
Reblogged this on Reiki Dawn and commented:
Feel this is an incredibly important post of information, resources and background on narcissistic behavior. Where and who do we know fits this. Look on the world stage as well. It’s can be frightening to realize leaders I. Our world fall under this category. Truth is and can be an important tool. Thank you Laura so much for sharing
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Posted by laurabruno on January 24, 2015 at 4:04 pm
Thanks for the reblog and additional comments, Dawn. Yes, it can be frightening, but looking at it with courage allows us to do something to change the circumstances.
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Posted by KC2015 on January 24, 2015 at 1:53 am
Reblogged this on Not A Member Of The Club Sandwich and commented:
Wow. Thank you Laura Bruno’s blog for posting this. There is great insight and fabulous tools in these videos!
I especially relate with the lack of emapthy, the gaslighting, the inappropriate actions and words, the shitty gifts (or the taking pictures of gifts he said that he got for me but I never actually received them, and the list goes on.)
I came to the realization today that he is a miserable person, always in a sad or angry state but he would hide it by hurting me or someone else and that would also help him to feel better about himself. I remember when I attempted no contact the first time and he went on and on about what a mess my life was and that it was so stupid of me to leave him when he had done so much for me. He said he “felt sorry for me.” Well, I actually do feel sorry for him because he is only running from himself and he is the miserable one doomed to a lonely and unfulfilled life. I, on the other hand, sought help when I knew something was wrong with me and though it may be a slow and painful journey, I know I will be a better person in the end.
Thank you again for the post! 🙂
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Posted by laurabruno on January 24, 2015 at 4:01 pm
So glad you found this supportive and helpful, KC2015! Yep, been there with the “I feel sorry for you” line, LOL, or the “I’m very concerned for you. You’re having a fugue moment.” Um, no, it’s called seeing reality. 🙂 Glad you’re moving forward and getting clarity. It’s true that narcissists and sociopaths are doomed to miserable, lonely and unfulfilled lives … but those are not things we can fix. Our own lives, however, can open wide for improvements. 🙂 All the best to you!
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Posted by Gale A. Molinari on January 24, 2015 at 1:57 am
Reblogged this on galesmind.
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Posted by betternotbroken on January 24, 2015 at 7:49 am
Our world is currently being destroyed by these “leaders.” Spot on.
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Posted by laurabruno on January 24, 2015 at 4:02 pm
Thanks, betternotbroken!
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Posted by WritesinPJ's on January 25, 2015 at 3:09 pm
Well done, and reblogging!
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Posted by WritesinPJ's on January 25, 2015 at 3:11 pm
Reblogged this on my life in pajamas and commented:
Here’s a great compilation of resources for anyone trying to get through the maze of a relationship with a narcissist.
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Posted by Anna Waldherr on February 9, 2015 at 4:10 am
Truly exceptional.
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