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Gary Z McGee ~ Sacred Anger and the Power of Hard Love

This is one of the best articles I have ever read. Thanks, Ann! It goes right along with a comment I made on my reblog of Jon Rappoport’s “The composition of human life” post: Yes, it’s interesting, because there IS some value in surrender when you have truly tried everything else. Oftentimes, the relief follows and then ushers in solutions after deep surrender. The trouble with the New Age movement is that it teaches passivity as “surrender,” and that has allowed really good people to passively endorse all manner of atrocities in the name of “being spiritual.”

I would amend this comment to acknowledge that it’s not just the New Age movement that encourages passivity in the face of atrocities — although spiritual bypass may be most rampant in that particular realm of otherwise highly capable people. I ask similar questions of conscientious objector Mennonites in an attempt to discover by exactly what brain circuitry they can support drone striking children and wedding parties in their 100% support for Obama. I have yet to find a satisfactory answer for that from the Mennonites; however, the New Ager’s assure me that Obama is either “an enlightened being from a much higher (not understandable) dimension” or “a poor, hapless victim of the Cabal.”

I say we are each responsible for whatever roles we play. Whether that role happens to be a charade or not, there comes a time when excuses and passivity become endorsement. And no, this observation is not limited to Obama or the Democratic party. It extends to every increasingly flagrant assault that people continue to accept as “the new normal” or “just following orders.” NIMBY doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. Plus if it’s not in your backyard right now, that doesn’t mean it won’t be soon.

This essay also calls to mind Julian Rose’s urgent question, “You May Wake Up, But Will You Get Out of Bed?“, as well as my earlier post on The Power of Your Emotions.

Sacred Anger and the Power of Hard Love

June 3, 2014

by Gary Z McGee

“Love does not imply pacifism.” – Derrick Jensen

As it stands, all of us are victims of an extremely unhealthy culture. In a culture of conquer-control-consume-repeat we are endlessly conquered, controlled, consumed and forced into repeating and facilitating this diabolical process to no end. We’re like a bunch of spoiled-rotten, whiny children, taking our vexations out on each other and the environment when we should be digging down deep and transforming our comfortable inertia into courageous action. The question is: how do we break the cycle. One answer may be through sacred anger and hard love.

Here’s the thing: life was not meant to be comfortable. Sure, discover comfort where you can, but you’ll never grow if you don’t get uncomfortable every once in a while. Just like our culture will forever stagnate and degenerate if we don’t challenge how comfortable and contained it keeps us, especially when those comforts are systematically destroying the world. Like Anais Nin wrote, “Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” Let’s choose not to fail. Let’s choose not to give into this kind of death. Let’s choose courage instead.

In our culture, anger is seen as politically incorrect. But deep, focused anger can be a boon of sacred energy if we can learn to use it wisely and courageously. Attentive, meditative anger can even be a form of empathy, as anger is often a natural response to horrific situations. Sometimes anger is not only the natural reaction, but the only moral reaction.

This is the kind of anger that lifts us up and compels us to protect the weak against the overreaching powerful or the poor against the overindulgent rich. The type of righteous anger that flips over tables like Christ did against the greedy bankers, the type of anger that would rather live a hard life of freedom than an easy life of slavery. Such anger is sacred precisely because it instills in us an unstoppable courage.

We should not be expected to remain calm and happy in the face of ecocide, rape, misogyny, slavery, and greed. Rather we should be compelled toward righteous anger. We should be obliged to help victims become warriors, screaming from the rooftops, “Take the Goddamned red pill for Christ’s sake! Become a freedom unto yourself! You are your own hero! Allow yourself to be worthy. Allow yourself to be extraordinary! Get angry! Get really pissed off! Then grab the bull by the horns and pin that bastard to the ground!” Like Gloria Steinem said, “The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off.”

But when push comes to shove, we are just too damn comfortable to care, and too damn polite to speak out. We need to get uncomfortable. We need to rediscover sacred ruthlessness, divine anger, and holy rage, leaving nothing to the inertia of chance and everything to the responsibility of choice; otherwise we fail to be responsible with our power. We cannot consume our way to sustainability. We cannot pillage our way to balance with nature. We cannot lie, cheat, steal, or trap our way to freedom. We cannot tyrannize our way to equal rights. Something has to give. And that something is our overindulgent comfort and complacent inertia.

“What is the real origin of my own anger?” wrote Jean-Yves Leloup. “Is it the ego defending its territory, or is it something that has its source in the desire for the well-being of all?” Sacred anger that spills over into empathy and compassion becomes a very powerful force for moral good known as Hard Love. Hard love is ruthless love. It teaches even as it destroys outdated worldviews. It educates even as it shatters obsolete mental paradigms. It tutors even as it crushes parochial perspectives.

It reveals the wisdom within all wounds. It forces a mirror in front of our victim-hood, screaming at us to rise above being a victim of the world and to become the world instead. It slaps us with the truth while revealing exactly how often we’ve been kissed with lies.
It mocks our sense of deservedness: that whiny “I deserve a vacation. I deserve a brand new car. I deserve love. I deserve to be rich. I deserve to be perfect. Wah-wah-wah and woe-is-me!” while exposing us to the absolute fact that we don’t “deserve” anything but what we’ve earned through our own blood, sweat, and tears. And even then we may not get what we want. So it goes.

What we need is a global coup d’état. What we need is to break the trance. What we need is to get uncomfortable. What we need is a Great Rewilding. What we need is to shift the current unsustainable paradigm. And the way we do these things is through sacred anger and hard love. It feels like an impossible task. But no task has ever been more important. On the detritus of the outdated, unsustainable system, we will create something entirely new and sustainable.

We must, or we doom ourselves to failure and “a kind of death.” WWJD? He would flog greedy bankers in public, for one. So I beseech you all: discover your own righteous anger, become a freedom unto yourself, channel hard love, open the paradigm and ascend. The world needs you to not be crippled by fear, inertia, and comfort. It needs you to be filled with courage, compassion, and proactive, interdependent love.

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Revelations, Revolutions and Spin

The people who’ve run this world for at least 12,000 years are con artists.

They know what to reveal, when and how. When they get caught at one thing, they divert, obfuscate or find a scapegoat to bear the brunt of punishment for their own psychotic games. They prey upon a humanity with little to no independent imagination left — a humanity happy to outsource their imagination to tell-LIE-vision, movies, commercials, watered down Faery Lore turned into cotton candy, butterfly “fairy tales” and Common Core. Recognizing their own inadequacy to create, they’ve co-opted humanity’s innate creativity and used it for their own nefarious ends. Now that some alternative media icons have busted them, they’ve begun to spin things the other way.

I don’t even know where to begin with this post, because I’m just shaking my head at what passes for “revelations” these days — at what people gobble down because it paints the current “leaders” as the bad guys and reveals the supposed “exact opposite” as the solution. Nevermind that these kinds of revelations trigger revolutions that take us nowhere. Nevermind that the Middle Way offers far more freedom. People continue to outsource the responsibility of freedom in favor of security. When they finally break out of that program, they’re happy to outsource the responsibility of freedom in favor of victim mentality and witch hunts. Nevermind stepping into strength. Nevermind exploring the Mysteries. Alternative media has spoken: “Throw the baby out with the bath water.”

Meanwhile, the real puppeteers continue to pull the strings. They simply sacrifice one round of useful idiots before anointing and animating the next batch. This occurs in politics, in banking and, most importantly for the awakening of humanity, in spirituality. When undeniably caught using esoteric tools to gather influence and rule the world, the best damage control appears to be demonizing any and all esoteric tools and wisdom. Mysteries? All Satanic. Witches? All Satanic. Archons? Annunaki? All powerful, all Satanic. To claim otherwise makes you one of “them.”

Anything they’ve ever mentioned or alluded to, anything at all that might remind someone somewhere of something scary, Shadow or misunderstood? Best to destroy. Nevermind careful definitions of “Satanic,” “reptilian,” “Luciferian” or “serpentine.” Nevermind the deliberate and historically inaccurate conflation of movements, energies or concepts. To hell with subtleties! It’s damage control time. Throw that frickin’ baby out with the bath water, before humanity embraces its own natural power and self-respect.

Grow up, humanity. Satan means “Adversary,” and not everyone who honors the connection with Earth and the Unseen World is your Adversary. On the contrary, many of those who’ve taken the time, energy, effort and Shadow Work to explore and experience the Mysteries are allies. The puppeteers just don’t want you to realize that, because then you’d realize what weak little cons they really are.

Regarding discernment: as a general rule, extremes miss the mark. Fascism or international communism? They both work out to the same totalitarian experience for the average Joe or Jane. Fundamentalist Christianity or Fundamentalist Islam? They both result in killing millions of innocents. It’s not Christianity or Islam: it’s the fundamentalist mentality that causes issues.

We’ve even got Fundamentalist New Ager’s, who represent some of the most deluded bunch around. Unlike the Fundamentalist Christians or Muslims who at least have a tradition to cling to, the strange phenomenon of Fundamentalist New Age-ism hodge-podges together, waters down and even flat out invents “traditions” of “tolerance” and “relativity,” and then lumps anyone who explores and honors the Ancient Mysteries into the black category of Satanist. Ironically, the Fundamentalist New Age crowd who felt so persecuted that they left Christianity or Judaism may be the first the join with Saudi Arabia in persecuting “witches.”

The definition of sin is “to miss the mark,” as in not expressing the fullness of your being. “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”

“Love one another.”

This is a time for self-assessment, for the dropping of illusions. In the name of “revelations,” be careful what “revolutions” you unwittingly usher in. Theocracy? A One World Religion? Another Inquisition? The answer to the police state is not more totalitarianism from a “different” source. The answer is growing up, knowing yourself, recognizing yourself in others, and honoring the responsibility of freedom.

“Jesus said, ‘If your leaders say to you, ‘Look, the (Father’s) kingdom is in the sky,’ then the birds of the sky will precede you. If they say to you, ‘It is in the sea,’ then the fish will precede you. Rather, the kingdom is within you and it is outside you. When you know yourselves, then you will be known, and you will understand that you are children of the living Father. But if you do not know yourselves, then you live in poverty, and you are the poverty.’” ~ Gnostic Gospel of Thomas

“Know what is in front of your face, and what is hidden from you will be disclosed to you. For there is nothing hidden that will not be revealed. And there is nothing buried that will not be raised.” ~Gnostic Gospel of Thomas

Wake up, humanity! Evolution moves as a spiral, not a circular return to the same old, same old. I offer this from a place of deep love and sorrow at what I see even alternative media presenting as answers, revelations and “solutions.” Pray for courage and discernment.

“Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.” ~ William Shakespeare, All’s Well that Ends Well

“I freed thousands of slaves. I could have freed thousands more, if they had known they were slaves.” ~Harriet Tubman

 

The Power of Your Emotions

Today, we have another series of comments turned blog post, this time from a discussion on Jean Haines’ blog. The discussion included after this long introduction covers ideas of being “in this world but not of it,” the Temperance Card and the Age of Aquarius, as well as the importance and power of your emotions. As regular readers know, I very much value the importance and power of love and forgiveness. I also recognize that love sometimes means calling out abuse, and then following that emotional line with action to stop future abuse.

The New Age and “Ascension” Movements have become so indoctrinated with the idea of “if you fight it, you feed it” that it’s tempting to lose sight of other choices. It’s not an either/or option of “live completely passively or become a violent thug.” We don’t need to “join them” and employ the same methods of violence and “power over.” We have other options besides “fight” or “flight.” We can also acquire different weapons that lift the old “fight” into newer territory. “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” was said by the same genius (Albert Einstein) who reminded us, “No problem can be solved at the same level of consciousness that created it.”

Like it or not, the subtle shift that turned the Peace Movement into the Anti-War Movement effectively neutered a force powerful enough to change the world. Before the CIA flooded hippies with LSD, real, honest, core emotions fueled a desire for world peace. A desire accompanied by powerful actions like organic gardening, creative (yet non-violent) non-compliance, and alternative community lifestyles. The power structures infiltrated the Peace Movement in the same ways they’ve infiltrated the New Age, Awakening and Truth Movements — from one angle, drugging people out with hope-ium, pharmaceuticals, or “natural” highs that leave people completely ungrounded and therefore powerless to effect on-the-ground change … from the other angle, converting righteous anger and empowering passion into mindless rage.

If we want peace to become a real, tangible force again, then we need to find middle, upper and lower ground — we need to seek until we find the best footing to implement real change. Pie in the sky is a fine starting place, but right now we’ve got drones in the skies … and many of the hopium “pacifists” not only voted to continue those drones, but they continue to endorse and enable violence through head-in-the-sand non-violence. If we can’t figure out how to stop violence, then at the very least, we have a sacred responsibility to create real, grounded alternatives so that a Tipping Point can actually happen. Slapping a “Love ‘n’ Light” sticker on genocide and tyranny doesn’t transmute such evils into “Bliss.” Not in the real world, anyway. Yes, infuse the real world with bliss — raise the default vibration — but doing so requires an occasional visit to the messy physical and emotional realms. The more often we visit, the more chances we have to influence the direly necessary clean-up and renovations.

For those who like the pseudo-Awakening Matrix Movies: it’s not just about Red Pill or Blue Pill. We can take a Purple Pill or — here’s a radical idea in the age of BigPharma– how about No Pill? How about actually allowing ourselves to feel those emotions, to observe them before discarding them as irrelevant or “low vibe.” Maybe we want those emotions … or at least to harvest their energy. How about reclaiming options that are rightfully ours but currently not offered for public consumption? We can become (to use another biblical expression) “wise as serpents, harmless as doves.” Many truly good, caring people have embraced the “harmless as doves” part, but far, far fewer have taken the “wise as serpents” part to heart. Wisdom begins by knowing ourselves — even the parts we wish weren’t there. Maybe especially those parts!

Edmund Burke said, “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” We live in a world where the DSM-5 classifies pretty much every single emotion as a psychological disorder that requires “treatment.” A world where BigPharma medicates the emotions into oblivion; a world where fluoride — which is essentially pineal gland poisoning Prozac — is pumped into public water supplies, as it was used in WW2 gas chambers to keep prisoners from freaking out and becoming troublesome. Yes, the internet and news are filled with “fear porn” and vitriol, but in our attempts to reclaim sovereignty over ourselves and to heal our planet, let’s not throw the babies out with the bath water.

Babies are precious. So are our emotions … as long as we nurture them, get to know them and learn how to trust them again. Despite all the attempts at divide and conquer and false duality, we don’t live in a black and white world. There’s plenty of Shadow to explore, and if we’re afraid of exploring it, including the emotions and energies that frequently dwell there, then we will continue to offer ourselves up to manipulation by those who’ve fully embraced the “wise as serpents” aspect while only paying lip service to “harmless as doves.”

Please note, I am not advising anyone on pharmaceutical medications to go dump their prescription med’s in the toilet. If you would like to get off prescribed med’s, please do consult a doctor, naturopath or other professional with experience in mitigating withdrawal effects, as pharmaceuticals create actual dependencies, which need to be safely addressed. The Hippocratic Oath advises, “First, do no harm,” but again … we must always remember to be “wise as serpents.” We live in a co-opted world. If we wish to free ourselves from all the layers of creepy infiltration, mind control, and the current — happening right now in mainstream society near you — Zombie Apocalypse, then we need to reclaim our emotions, learn what they are and how to work with them rather than being controlled by them. Respect, not control. If those emotions weren’t so powerful, then the NWO/transhumanist agenda wouldn’t work so hard at manipulating and/or eradicating them. As Starhawk says, “Where there’s fear, there’s power.”

I trust some people will find bits of resonance and assistance in the following comments, too:

Greater Arcana says:
December 26, 2013 at 4:42 pm

That sounds like fear still talking. Jean said we have to lose attachment to that fear in the opening of this post. The name of the ascension game is to be on this earth, but not OF it. Forgiveness and understanding are what these military dogs, their superiors, and even those in the top tier of the cabal need. They were not loved enough. That’s the real lesson here. Learn it or continue to do things just like they do.

Tempering metal is one of the hardest processes to achieve. The same goes for tempering our base consciousness upward into spirit. I give you the Temperance Card. One foot on earth, the other within water, symbolizing spirit: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:RWS_Tarot_14_Temperance.jpg
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Jean says:
December 26, 2013 at 4:49 pm

🙂 Sometimes, though, I think we need to express our feelings, all the while knowing we aren’t going to act on them. To keep them inside is not wise . . . When they come out in the open, I thinkit is sometimes easier to deal with them. . . Hugs, ~Jean
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laurabruno says:
December 26, 2013 at 11:05 pm

Well said, Jean, and also, just a note:

In the Tarot (and many other places) water represents the emotions, not spirit. Wands/fire are the suit of spirit. Emotions are extremely important, as they keep us in touch with our soul. The Temperance Card is a great illustration, but it is showing the importance of balance AND the connection between Earth and the emotions in the Age of Aquarius –Aquarius being the water bearer.

Peace,
Laura
Jean says:
December 26, 2013 at 11:28 pm

I agree with your words, but I would like to add that it is important that we keep the emotional pathway to our heart/souls clear, so the messages we get from our hearts are accurate . . . I hope you can agree with this. . . Hugs, ~Jean

laurabruno:

Yes, Jean, I am very much a proponent of people clearing emotions and also transmuting them into higher vibration and/or using the emotions to fuel passion towards something positive we do want in this world. I just find that many times there is a desire to skip the step of actually being in touch with the emotions in the first place. That’s rampant in repressive “religions” but also very much something to keep an eye on in the whole “Ascension” movement. Denial is not the same as transmutation; refusing to look at what’s happening is not the same thing as pivoting from what’s not wanted and recognizing our own levels of influence to change things — in thought and intention, yes, but also, quite often in action.

That’s one reason why I appreciate Neil so much. I think you would agree that he’s quite a passionate guy. He’s got that fiery Irish energy that can seem like a lot of bluster to people, but if you look beyond the bluster, it’s clear he has a tremendous amount of Love. Too often, Tough Love or speaking truth to power is seen as “negative” or “fear based.” Not dealing at all with Shadow emotions simply does the NWO’s work for them — instead of them needing to censor and medicate us, we do it for them through fear of anything that’s not “Light.”

There is a difference between darkness and evil. Compost occurs in darkness and fertilizes the soil; without it, the soil becomes sterile. There’s a huge connection between soil and soul, between humus and human. Soul grows in the dark; spirit grows in the light. As humans, we have and need both. Earth is Ascending. One of the easiest guarantees of being on that track is to align ourselves with Earth, our bodies and our emotions. In order to do so, we need to spend some time in Nature, eating real, non-GMO foods and removing toxic poisons — on all the levels with whatever tools we find effective.

I think we are essentially coming from quite similar perspectives given your story of your own healing. I just hate to see people immediately stamping out anything as “fear” or “not high vibe enough.” Fear is sometimes a valid warning system to “pay attention,” “be careful,” “change your path,” etc. Anger at abuse can provide courage and strength for action to halt such abuse. The key is not to get stuck in these emotions. That’s where the Temperance card provides a good model.

I find Abraham-Hicks’ concept of an Emotional Guidance Scale extremely relevant and empowering for people: https://laurabruno.wordpress.com/2012/12/19/abraham-hicks-the-emotional-guidance-scale/ … You can’t immediately access bliss from a place of despair; each emotion provides stepping stones to preferred ones, but again, if we just try to put a brave or happy face on things without real honesty, inner and quite oftentimes OUTER work, as well, then we haven’t “Ascended,” we’ve just deepened the denial structure. Thank you for your blog and the comments/discussion.

Hugs,
Laura

Pamina Mullins ~ 20 Good Reasons to Have Clear Personal Boundaries

This post originally appeared on the HSP Blog. HSP stands for “Highly Sensitive People,” which I know many of my readers and clients are. I also know that in my own life, 2009-2013 has felt like earning an intensive college degree in setting clear personal boundaries. Intuition and empathy can both help and hinder that process. Pamina’s article explains why we might want to build those boundaries anyway, even when doing so becomes uncomfortable. Go ahead: it’s good for you! Plus, with all the upheaval and chaos these days, you’ll need to rebuild a lot of things anyway. In creating your New, why not start with firm foundations and clear boundaries? 🙂

20 Good Reasons to Have Clear Personal Boundaries
By Pamina Mullins

I was struck recently by the exceptionally high number of clients I see, whose inability to set firm personal boundaries is resulting in supersonic stress levels. Smart business people repeatedly compromised by unreliable colleagues, over demanding superiors or downright crooked clients; caring, supportive people with predatory partners or out of control children. People of integrity whose opportunistic friends, family or employees manipulate them mercilessly and drain their time and energy.

Why People Have Boundary Issues

Although their stories are all quite different, these are some common threads that connect people with boundary challenges: • They are all natural born givers and people pleasers. • Their personal boundaries are weak or non existent. • Their goals are fuzzy. • Their empathy triggers and guilt glands are super-sensitive. • They are popular. And that’s the clue. Sometimes the personal price you pay for this kind of popularity can be way too high. Depending on others to peg your value is a fast track to stress. Why? Because it means other people control your choices in everything you do. They always have the leverage advantage. This not only leads to self sabotage but it can be dangerous too.

The Danger Of Approval

Being overly dependent on other’s approval can make you go against everything you value, if the threat of exclusion from what you perceive as any kind of “inner circle” is terrifying enough. The plots of many thrillers are based on exactly this dynamic. We all crave validation and respect but at what cost? An inability to set healthy boundaries means sooner or later someone is going to have to pick up the slack—and your place in the popularity polls will plummet. The reason everyone loves you is probably because you do what they want—at the expense of what you want. Whose life is this anyway? Although it wasn’t always comfortable, growing up a wild child in a small town with an eccentric family certainly put people pleasing in its right place for me. I learned at an early age not to care too deeply about other people’s opinions. And this immunity to popular opinion helped me make my own rules. As far as I was concerned, if my actions gave those with empty lives something fascinating to focus on, I was performing a community service! When people praise or validate you, accept it; enjoy it, but don’t become dependent on it. You know whether you have done well or not. Next time you are tempted to cave in order to win popularity, consider these

20 Benefits Of Boundary Building

1. Setting boundaries saves time. 2. Setting boundaries builds respectful relationships. 3. Setting boundaries increases productivity—yours and everyone else’s. 4. Setting boundaries enables a team to work as a team—everyone is headed in the same direction, towards the same clear goals. 5. Setting boundaries builds accountability within your team—no passing the buck. 6. Setting boundaries stops you feeling overwhelmed, resentful, victimized and stressed. 7. Setting boundaries frees up energy and enthusiasm. 8. Setting boundaries fosters confidence, leadership, and organizational abilities. 9. Setting boundaries generates respect. 10. Setting boundaries aids concentration and decision making. 11. Setting boundaries creates a healthy balance between giving and taking. 12. Setting boundaries allows you to take care of your own wellbeing. 13. Setting boundaries leads to a happy, balanced life. 14. Setting boundaries minimizes misunderstanding and conflict. 15. Setting boundaries gives you a sense of control in your life. 16. Setting boundaries makes delegating more effective. 17. Setting boundaries teaches family and team members to think for themselves. 18. Setting boundaries vastly improves communication—everyone knows where they stand and what is expected of them. 19. Setting boundaries goes a long way towards preventing bullying. 20. Setting boundaries gives you an authentic sense of authority. Your boundary building expertise automatically acts as a map for the people who relate to you in any way.

The Benefits Of Strong Boundaries

Boundaries spell R E S P E C T on every level—and shape the way people respond to you. If you put inappropriate parts into a machine that is vital for production, will you get maximum production? Success requires putting the right people, with the right qualities, in the right place, for the right reasons—in every area of your life. Yes you might well have to do some reshuffling to accomplish this. And people pleasers find this very painful. They would rather struggle on for years, having their relationships, careers or health sabotaged, dragging the deadweight of dead wood behind them, silently picking up the slack and stressing themselves into ill health—than just take a stand. Drawing firm boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you care enough about the bigger picture, to take the necessary actions. It doesn’t mean you don’t like someone. It means you understand where they belong in your life—and where they don’t. It just means you are placing the right components in the right place to maximize the chances of a successful outcome for all. And yes, when you first install personal boundaries, you will face criticism. Not everyone will understand why, and some will take it personally, but they will get over it. And the wear and tear on your stress-o-meter will be worth it a thousand times over. What do you think?

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