Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

Ann Kreilkamp ~ Aftermath, New Moon in Taurus: Starting Over from Zero

I enjoyed this post from Ann Kreilkamp, and I’ve noticed similar reboots for a number of people, including myself. In retrospect, I also experienced some of my most amazing dream downloads ever exactly when the fast moving Moon conjuncted my natal Mercury at 4 degrees Gemini. That was a direct hit of early morning insight and inspiration! For anyone who’s had a particularly rich or intense past week, this post offers some larger astrological context. I love the Edith Piaf song at the end.

Ann Kreilkamp ~ Aftermath, New Moon in Taurus: Starting Over from Zero

The powerful Taurus New Moon of May 4th has come and gone. And if you are one of those who found that some long simmering drama finally came to a head during that time and continues now to completely dissolve a Neptunian spell that you had been under for the past two years (one Mars cycle) via new information (Mars in Gemini) which blew your previous world-view to smithereens (Jupiter in Sagittarius), these three planets, Neptune with Jupiter, triggered by fast-moving Mars, in a three way, very stressful, and very enlightening T-cross, then congrats. You’re not alone. I personally know two people  whose primary relationships, each two years long, blew up over these last few days, and precisely due to new and startling information, leaving both of them at zero, starting all over again. Continue reading

Timothy Glenn ~ Relationship Key Words

One of my very favorite articles by Timothy Glenn! I even make a Faerie cameo. 😉

Relationship Keywords

by Timothy Glenn

As we transition from the artificial matrix of the old world into the Natural Reality of the New Earth, we are individually and collectively expanding into a profoundly different dimension of conscious evolution. If we as Beings shift to such a significant degree, it automatically follows that the nature of relationship will change as well.

A couple decades or so ago, I assembled a group of keywords to contrast relationships of the old world with relationships of the New Earth. In recently sharing these perspectives with clients, the realization dawned: the original text had never made it onto the internet.

Here are three pairs of contrasting keywords.

Old World: Personal

All our relationships in the old world operated purely on a personal level. Everything was done personally, and taken personally. Ego games abounded, complete with power plays and loads of manipulation. Been there, done that? Join the club. Bought the t-shirt as well? By now, perhaps that old t-shirt has faded and fallen apart from so many washings.

Upon entering into any old world relationship, it was as though the other person took a snapshot of you and thereby defined your beingness now and forevermore. We can probably not even count how many times we have heard lines like: “Well, you’re not the girl I married.” A reasonable response could be: “Yeah, well…thank God. Growth and transformation are sort of natural.”

New Earth: Transpersonal

A transpersonal relationship has the capacity to contain all the finest attributes of a strictly personal relationship, but affords the freedom to expand far beyond. Continue reading

December 2016 Specials

People have already been asking about these, so here they are:

DECEMBER 2016 SPECIALS

Extra Support For You:

$77 Past Life Readings

All that decking the halls and gathering of friends and family can sometimes feel a little less than jolly. For those of you who find this time of year stressful due to old family dynamics or strained relationships, I’m offering a discount and shorter than usual Past Life Readings. (Normally $175 for an hour, this special offers a half hour Past Life Reading for $77.)

Over the years, I’ve found Past Life Readings to be the most transformative sessions about relationships. Locating the soul connections in their larger context helps make sense of nagging concerns or old wounds, opening possibilities for forgiveness and ease. (If you’re not sure of a past life connection, here are 5 common signs.) Sessions must be prepaid by 12/31/16; however, they can be redeemed whenever you feel you need extra insight into relationship challenges.

GIFT CERTIFICATES

Each year, clients ask me how they might gift their friends and family members some time with me. I’ve found that my clients are intuitive enough to know if someone is ready for and will find these services of value, so I’ve provided two options, which you can mix and match for as many recipients as you’d like. (The only criterion is that you cannot purchase a gift certificate for yourself –but you can certainly request one!)

$99 Gift Certificates

For those of you wishing to gift someone with a Medical Intuitive Session, Soul Reading, Past Life Reading, and/or Intuitive Coaching Session, this $99 Gift Certificate covers a 45-minute session in person, or by phone or Yahoo Instant Messenger. Valid only as a gift for someone else. Prepaid on or before 12/31/16, Gift Certificates are valid through 2017 and include a customized PDF that can be emailed or printed out for the recipient. Please contact me to make arrangements.

A Touch of Tarot Gift Certificate

This is a $33 tarot option that lets you gift 20 minutes to a friend or loved one. Sessions occur by phone and include an emailed or texted photo of the spread(s) for easy following along. Valid only as a gift for someone else. Prepaid on or before 12/31/16, Gift Certificates are valid through 2017 and include a customized PDF that can be emailed or printed out for the recipient. Please contact me to make arrangements.

 

Comment Bump Up About Boundaries and Expectations

This little comment exchange from the re-post “Expectations and Happiness” seems important to bump up, since the topic arises a lot during client sessions, as well as during conversations with colleagues needing to maintain balance in their lives so they don’t burn out. It also goes along with Tania Marie’s recent video message, which I also highly recommend.

Comments bumped up from Expectations and Happiness (I added paragraphs to mine for easier reading):

 

  • Posted by diana allen on February 19, 2016 at 9:33 pm  edit

    A couple weeks ago I was having lunch with a friend and she shared with me that in general, she has “really low expectations” of other people. I was so surprised! But she said someone once told her that people with lower expectations are happier than people with high expectations, and she too it to heart.

    Logically, I suppose this makes perfect sense. I’ve been happier in certain relationships after I decreased my expectations of the person. (I may think the relationship would be more fulfilling, for me anyway, if the other person WANTED to meet my expectations, but accepting that they didn’t allowed us to continue the friendship.) On the other hand, I think it’s important to know your own limits of what is and is not acceptable. You don’t have to go too low. Boundaries are a beautiful thing.

    xx

     

  • I agree, Diana, “Boundaries are a beautiful thing”! For me, that goes into the creating a new reality department: if people don’t meet my expectations of how I expect to be treated, then I downgrade their involvement in my life. I have layers upon layers of relationships, relatively few of which I consider fully mutual. In order to maintain a sense of balance, my relationships either involve some kind of supplementary energy exchange such as payment from clients, or I have categories of friends like “gardening friends” or “vegan lunchtime friends.”

    If someone expects something from me that is just so far above and beyond what I would ever consider asking from them or what I consider them capable of offering in terms of depth or understanding, then I might choose to gift that to them — under special circumstances, at my discretion — but to go on pretending that such relationships are balanced would be a toxic disservice to me, so I remove myself.

    I know this is a common theme among many people who live from a place of service, compassion and assistance. There’s a difference between charity work, paid work, what we consider casual acquaintances, and true blue friends. For me, the true blue friends are the ones who live from a similar level of awareness and generosity as I do. I expect very few people to live from that place, so I create and maintain my boundaries with that awareness.

    Every once in a great while, someone surprises me by moving from a lesser level of friendship into full on potential to live from that space. When I see that, those people move into the true blue friend category –not because I need them to, but because I recognize the commonality of experience and depth. Recognizing the different levels of consciousness and compassion, and honoring those differences without feeling guilty for “judging” others has greatly improved my own happiness quotient over the years! I have such low expectations from most people — while still always seeing their potential — that I’m constantly pleased and surprised when people do step up more into the fullness of who they are. 🙂

    Thanks for your comment!

    xx

 

Tom Lescher/Kaypacha ~ Astrology for the Soul January 27, 2016

Whew! Feelin’ this one, and I know many others are, too. I’m glad I took the time to watch this Pele Report, because it really puts events from mid-December through now and into mid-February 2016 into perspective.

If you feel the urge to purge, you are not alone. If you find yourself evaluating what works and what doesn’t and suddenly feel it impossible to ignore the suppressed, repressed, and unexpressed, you are definitely not alone. Shadow Time. I’ve also heard so much from friends and clients, as well as noticing big time in my own life, that if something no longer belongs in your life, it feels like a matter of life and death to move it on out.

Kaypacha jokes about how often he uses the word “intense” in the first few minutes of this video, but it’s really no joke. These are intense times. Intensely crushing or intensely liberating: it depends on how you manage the intensity and what decisions it forces you to make. Choose well, because our choices right now are actively creating the new paradigm.

Masters of Love

This is a link to a copyrighted piece in the Atlantic regarding the importance of kindness in marriages or long term relationships. It goes beyond the obvious and gives some well-researched insights into why relationships flourish or fall apart. I will say that from my own experience in relationships and especially from what I hear day in, day out in sessions, this article rings true. Click here to read “Masters of Love.”

Past Lives, Health and Relationships

When people start opening their minds to the possibility of past lives influencing current preferences, compulsions, and patterns, they tend to ask a lot of questions! Suddenly, they want to know details about all the major relationships in their current life, as well as any “failed” romances they’ve tucked away for later processing. I’ve decided to answer some of the most commonly asked questions in this post. For those of you unfamiliar with how or why I started offering past life readings, please click here.

1. How can I tell if I’ve had a past life relationship with someone?

Very rarely can you actually prove to the rational mind that you have known someone before. More often, synchronicities, dreams and nudges just keep adding up until the rational mind cries, “Arggh, OK, I surrender! The simplest explanation really does involve multiple lifetimes with this same soul.” Intuitive Life Path Assessments can confirm these suspicions with greater details. When a non-involved party explains the exact and complex dynamics about a relationship you’ve only mentioned in passing, that tends to click things into place.

On your own, though, here’s the biggest tip-off: if you meet someone and you have an extreme, practically irresistable attraction or aversion to them, which defies logic, then odds are very high that you’ve encountered them before. Those whirlwind romances where you feel like you’ve “known each other forever” only to question your own sanity a few months later? Usually past life related. That parent or step-parent you just could not get along with? Often past life related.

We can feel strong emotions in any lifetime. The high-probability-past-life-indicator should flash when a feeling of compulsion or inevitability enters a relationship. Releasing that compulsion may require additional insights into the history of that soul connection, but knowing one exists can help begin the necessary shifts.

2. Have I had past lives with my pet(s)?

If you feel a deeper bond with your animal friend than you’ve ever felt with a human, chances are very high you’ve spent time together before. I notice this most often with cats and dogs of people involved in the healing arts; frequently the animal friend served as a familiar during a shamanic or witch lifetime.

I have also, on occasion, picked up that the animal souls were human spouses or lovers of a now-human client. People have an assumption that we move up some kind of hierarchy with humans on top and animals somewhere down below, but I have found this hierarchy is not so one-way. I prefer not even to call it a hierarchy because the idea creates so much judgment over which form’s superior. The animals I’ve contacted have made it clear that at times they prefer animal form, as if affords freedoms or flexibility not always available to humans.

No, not every loved pet is some evolved being or long lost love come back to enlighten you on your path. Sometimes animals just want to provide love without a lot of thought or analysis. If you have this kind of pet, count your blessings, too! Which one of us couldn’t use some unconditional love?

3. How can I tell if my dreams are past life memories or just symbols about my current life?

I always encourage people to approach dream interpretation with a “both and” attitude, rather than an “either or” perspective, at least in the beginning. Dreams come from the grab bag of your subconscious, which literally retains everything you’ve ever seen, known, tasted, touched, smelled, felt or otherwise experienced. In any lifetime.

If you find yourself dreaming repeatedly of costumes from a certain era, or you keep seeing the same scene again and again with you feeling distinctly embodied inside someone else’s body, then past lives are more likely involved in the dream. Still, your subconscious has chosen this moment in this life to explore those moments, memories or symbols, so I always suggest an interpretation from this life first. What questions are currently nagging at you? What if everyone in the dream was a part of you? How do you feel about the particular time period revealed — what might it symbolize for you as some kind of shorthand?

Once you’ve explored these avenues, then see if you still have a burning past life suspicion. If so, great, you might have more to explore and learn. If the past life questions have simmered down, though, it probably means you have received the message(s) you needed at this time.

4. How can I tell if I’m just projecting my own fears, hopes or other issues and calling it a past life?

Great question! In general, if you’ve thought to ask the question, then you’re probably not projecting that much. If, on the other hand, you have never once, even for a second doubted your “history” as a glamorous, totally virtuous and powerful ruler/princess/shaman/sorcerer, then chances are strong that you might be projecting at least a little bit. I’ve written more extensively on the topics of rejection, projection and reflection here.

5. Does my health issue have a past life cause?

Very often, yes, but that does not eliminate a “this life” cause. We are complex beings! Make sure you do check physical symptoms because past life causes don’t mean you have simply imagined this life’s pain. “Both and” frequently applies!

(That said, I have seen a lot of people release physical and emotional symptoms quite fast once they recognized the past life origin.)

If a subconscious past life memory has been influencing your health, you have likely tried (unsuccessfully) to resolve it many times before. Our bodies stake their claim on our attention in ways that few things besides money do. I get more calls about money and health than all other topics combined. Over the years I’ve found that so many of these health or financial problems relate to soul issues and patterns strewn across centuries or millenia rather than decades.

As a species, we tend to overcompensate. If something goes wrong, we will go to the far opposite extreme in our attempts not to repeat the same mistake. Imagine yourself doing this not just in reaction to events you can consciously remember, but as entire lifetimes lived in reaction to past life arcs:

Incarnating as an abused wife in Ancient Greece didn’t work for you last time? OK, this time try being a male warrior who kills anyone who threatens him. Eww, killed too many people in that lifetime? OK, this time, stay male, but become a monk, and renounce all violence. Hang out as a monk for three hundred years’ worth of lifetimes until you find God. What? You didn’t find God in all that time? Bullocks! Come back as a nature loving woman who talks to faeries. Oops! Bad time for that, you just got burned at the stake as a witch. Spend the next four hundred years hiding your gifts from society so no one will mistake you as a witch again. Tired of hiding? OK, let it all out this time. Wait!!! Oh, no, every time you try to embrace your healing gifts you get really sick or something stomps on your power and light. How can this be?

… and on and on …

Eventually, some people come here to integrate. Tired of all the yo-yo-ing, their souls realize that they can’t keep bouncing around in reaction to everything around them. They want freedom. They ask for freedom. But embracing the freedom means releasing all those attachments to old wounds and ideas.

The body serves the soul like a chivalrous knight of Middle Ages. It is utterly devoted to this damsel in distress (the soul), which cries out for rescue and a happily ever after. Like the legendary knights, the body will risk dragons, demons, swords and any kind of physical or emotional torment in order to free the soul. Thus, the body will “conveniently” develop major health issues, which “free” the soul to deal with repressed issues. Financial pinches will sometimes function in the exact same way.

As a general rule, if you suffer from what I call a “Medical Mystery” — bizarre, shifting symptoms that either morph to evade treatment or completely baffle your doctors, therapists or priest, then you’re probably here on an integration path. Examples include: people who have had multiple head injuries, suffer from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Lyme Disease, MS, Multiple Chemical Sensitivities, Kundalini Syndrome, EMF Sensitivity or other debilitating and seemingly psychsomatic issues.

An integration lifetime does not manifest the same way as a learning or reacting lifetime! In a learning or reacting lifetime, you can ignore some unresolved parts of your past. You can just tuck them into a closet or outhouse that you never intend to use this time around.

But in an integration lifetime, guess what? You will not allow yourself to be rewarded until you integrate. Integration is a primary reason you incarnated. Your soul wants to use its gifts without hinderance or hiding. Therefore any time you shove an issue underground it will flare up like a giant boil demanding your attention. It will ruin relationships, ruin your finances and/or ruin your health — whatever it takes to get the attention you intended to give it this time around.

If you’re in an integration lifetime, or suspect you might be, take heart, there are a lot of us on Earth at this time. In fact, Earth itself is going through an integrative phase. It helps to remember that even in poor health or stripped of your usual resources, you are a tremendously powerful and influential being. I would encourage you to ponder the possibility of a bigger picture … and to take hope that a better lifetime than you have ever known wants to reveal itself to you this time around.

In an integration lifetime, you have already acquired all the ingredients you need. Rather than searching for ingredients or grabbing the nearest processed food, you’re in a recipe development phase. You’re an elite chef. What will you create with all these wild, precious ingredients? When you take a bite out of life, how would you love it to taste? This time you really can have your cake and eat it, too!

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