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New Moon in Scorpio: Dreams, a Trojan War T-Square, and Peace

Happy New Moon in Scorpio! The November 15, 2020 New Moon occurs at 12:07 a.m. Eastern US time, at 23° 17′ Scorpio. Dane Rudhyar’s Sabian Symbol for Scorpio 24° (always round up for Sabian Symbols) is:

 

PHASE 234 (SCORPIO 24°): AFTER HAVING HEARD AN INSPIRED INDIVIDUAL DELIVER HIS “SERMON ON THE MOUNT,” CROWDS ARE RETURNING HOME.

KEYNOTE: The need to incorporate inspiring experiences and teachings into everyday living.

Today we hear a great deal about “peak experiences” (Maslow). The great problem facing everyone who has had such experiences is how to assimilate what has been felt, seen or heard, and how to let it transform his everyday consciousness and behavior. If this is not done the experience may turn confusing or toxic and perhaps destructive of the integrity of the person.

This fourth symbol as usual suggests to us what has to be done or how to do it. The “return home” from the high mountain, or from any “upper chamber” of the consciousness, may lead to a sense of oppression by the normal realities of existence, or else the soul that has been illuminated may retain enough of that light to transfigure every daily situation. This is the great CHALLENGE TO TRANSFORMATION.

(Laura again) In other words, the message of this monthly reset is one close to my heart (12:34 as I type this right now): Blessed Be, and be the blessing. Find ways to bring inspiration into everyday living.

Whereas last month’s New Moon formed a potent T-square with Pluto/Jupiter/Saturn in Capricorn and Mars in Aries, this month’s New Moon sextiles that cluster in Capricorn. Mars has retrograded back into the 15° Aries range, so it’s not (much) in the mix. The sextile offers harmonious, supportive energy in terms of the New Moon itself. With Scorpio and Pluto involved, we can expect depth and continued revelations, but the Sun/Moon conjunction brings healing rather than extreme tension and destiny level psychic visions like last month’s.

I planned to leave the astro analysis there, except some very insistent, repeated dreams last night forced my attention elsewhere. I’ll begin by sharing the most relevant part of last night’s dream, copied from my dream journal:

 
11/14/2020
 
I had the 1st part of this dream in the wee hours of the morning, and [my Dream Guys] told me to get up. I said, “Come on, Guys, I’m tired. If it’s so important, give it to me again or make me remember it.”
 
Vivid imagery of Randy (neighbor) driving to the T-Square from ____ to ____. I was walking South, just kept walking because I wasn’t really in obvious view since my back was to him. He got out of his truck and climbed on the roof. He stood in a cross position (or T-Square) with arms wide and said very loud, “Laura!”
 
I turned around, and he was staring right at me in that position. I was supposed to notice him, and whenever he said, “Laura!” I would, in real life, slam my jaw together like cymbals, which would kind of wake me up. … It was a really hard slam, many times. I am missing something and supposed to pay attention. Other dream symbols repeated from recent dreams, too. Cymbals/symbols. T-Square is also a repeat from a recent dream.
 
 
The dream continued, and it referenced/repeated symbols from earlier dreams in the past two weeks; however, the T-square is the part relevant to the November 15, 2020 New Moon in Scorpio.
 
I’ve included my 11/8/2020 T-square dream below. I’m NOT including my own possible interpretations on the collective or personal levels. I’m also not including many pages of dreams I’ve had in the past two weeks where bizarrely specific details have come true in the news cycle of the next 4-36 hours. I will just confirm that my usual highly precognitive dreams seem to be on super precognitive overload.
 
In addition, I keep having dreams with red snakes, red worms, red Sharpie’s, red velvet carpeting, and various forms of “sting.”
 
Although I do have some ideas about this long series of dreams, I don’t claim to know the definitive meanings. I also sense there are both personal and collective meanings, some of which dovetail, some of which occur on very different levels. I had not planned to share any of these dreams in any kind of public way, but the repeat dreams and the dramatic emphasis on T-squares, plus slamming my jaw shut like the clang of cymbals really grabbed my attention.
 
Last month’s Libra New Moon occurred in a T-square, but this morning’s research revealed that the chart for tonight’s Scorpio New Moon features a T-square with other planets. I’ll get into those astro aspects after sharing the other recent T-square dream:
 
11/8/2020
“Stinging Nettles on the Porch”
 
There was a pot of stinging nettles on an enclosed porch. It was dry and almost entirely withered, but parts of the plant still able to sting. In order to get into the house, it needed to be harvested. A woman reached in with her bare hands, ready to harvest it. She was not brave but totally unaware of how things worked. I almost couldn’t watch, knowing her bare hands were about to get very painfully stung.
 
Looking at her reaction to the withered nettles, you would think someone left her a giant bouquet of flowers, but it was an ugly plant — totally past its prime. No beauty left in the plant, but also not properly dried to use safely. It was going to hurt her hands. I didn’t want to watch the spectacle once the stingers hit her hands. She would drop the pot and howl.
 
Then, I was with someone else — a man, I think, in the back of a large truck cab — the kind used to haul groceries and other things across the country. There used to be a man and his wife driving this cab, and we felt safe. The man’s wife had left him, and he was driving very recklessly. The man in the back of the cab with me looked at me like, “Are you noticing this?! What can we do?”
 
The driver stopped at an intersection, a T-square, and we all got out. Suddenly the driver was nowhere to be seen. Instead there was a tall, manly woman insisting she was the new driver. She looked a little like _____ (“wind change woman” shamanic name), but it wasn’t her. I recognized her from somewhere before, but she disavowed that party — where I’d seen her.
 
She got in the drivers’ seat and stuck out her calf. She wanted us to feel her very muscular calf, … but I wasn’t going to participate or trust her to drive. I refused to get into the cab with someone I didn’t really know, who just appeared, disavowed the party I’d met her at, and now demanded to drive.
 
I didn’t know what the man I was with would do, but I said I would walk and started walking along the highway.
 
All of this must have flashed into my head as I watched the woman on the porch about to grab the withered nettles with her bare hands, because I saw her reaching for the plant again at the end.
 
….
 
End of that dream.
 
 
As I reread this dream, it jumps out at me that scorpions, the symbol for the Scorpio New Moon, have stingers. Other recent dreams have mentioned a sting or stingers, too, and my sweet Faery Twin Tania Marie recently shared how she got a very strange and dramatic sting on her elbow.
 
The T-square for tonight’s New Moon involves Venus at 22° Libra square Pluto/Jupiter/Pallas Athene at 22-23° Capricorn and opposite/square Eris at 23° Aries.
 
Eris is the goddess of discord. In Greek mythology, she tossed the apple of discord into the wedding celebration of Peleus and Thetis. This apple was to be a prize of beauty, and it triggered a vanity inspired fight among Hera, Aphrodite (Venus) and Athena (Pallas). This fight among the goddesses then triggered the Trojan War.
 
In other words, my dream alerted me to look for a T-square, possibly connected to tonight’s New Moon in Scorpio. Talk about a doozie of a T-square! Not only does it directly involve Eris, Venus/Aphrodite, and Pallas/Athene, but the Pallas/Athene focal point of this T-square gets mega-amplified by Jupiter conjunct Pluto. Jupiter expands whatever he touches, and Pluto rules the Underworld, the Shadow, and the sign of Scorpio. Pluto knows how to sting, and that kind of sting comes from the depths.With Pallas, Jupiter and Pluto in Capricorn, we might expect that sting from the depths to involve rules, traditions, protocols and structures.
 
Of all the goddesses, Pallas Athene is probably most associated with democracy, since Athena was the patron of Athens, the birthplace of democracy. This T-square at the New Moon in Scorpio comes in the midst of the most controversial election in US history. Pluto destroys in order to regenerate, and we can see this energy in the tsunamis of disillusion (or dissolution) of faith in our voting system. For one party, this destruction came in 2016, for the other party in 2020. Meanwhile, the world is watching the country that positions itself as the standard of democracy somehow unable or unwilling to determine who won.
 
In astrology, Pallas Athene is associated with owls, pattern recognition, the arts, and the Midheaven. Venus is goddess of love and relationships, now in Libra, one of her home signs, symbolized by the balanced scales of justice. Eris is sometimes thought of as the Faery who wasn’t invited to Sleeping Beauty’s Christening and then cursed her to prick her finger on the spinning needle. (Another “sting.”) The maxim “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” seems a lot like Eris.

In another part of my dream journal, I commented about the nettles, “This is going to hurt a lot of innocent people who know nothing about the properties of stinging nettles. The woman on the porch will drop the pot, and it will shatter. She will be very hurt and angry from the sting. She thought it was a bouquet of flowers, but it’s not.”

In nettles, the antidote to the sting is actually in the nettles themselves, and this seems like good medicine for this Scorpio New Moon with its powerful Trojan War trigger T-square. This is not a time for careless reactivity. Nettles, like Eris and Pluto, demand respect. If you wander through a stand of nettles, you will not forget that sting. It burns from the inside out and keeps burning for a long time, unless you know where to find and how to apply the antidote. If you chew up nettle leaves, the juice in the leaves soothes their sting.

This is another way of saying the Bible verse:

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?  Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?  You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. ~ Matthew 7:3-5

Please do not underestimate the powerful energies vying for our attentions right now. Healing is possible. Healing is offered. May we each seek for truth, both inside and outside ourselves. May we remember the Mayan idea of Hunab Ku: “You are another myself.” This concept is similar to the yin yang symbol, uniting opposites. I will leave you with a powerful synchronicity I shared with a friend on 11/11/2020:

Last night, David and I were watching ETs Among Us, Part 3. …Then I nodded off for a little while (very unusual for me). All of a sudden it was like something shook me awake, and the video’s showing a crop circle of a yin yang sign, showing it from above, then from ground level, then panning above and showing the yin in the yang. 

This jumped out at me because of almost shaking me awake right at that moment, but also because I had just this morning said this: “They” have a curious sense of humor. Over the course of my life, I’ve occasionally had dreams showing that “this and that are true,” panning back and seeing the yin in the yang, etc. 

Wow, it is now 3:33, and I went to look for an image of the yin yang crop circle. I came upon this video right at 3:33, and noted the time length of 3:33:

Peace!

Denial, Boundaries, Dams and Emotions

Today’s post offers a collection of other posts with commentary based on what I’ve observed in recent sessions and in the larger world. It doesn’t take much intuition to recognize how polarized, projecting and intense emotions have become, especially in recent weeks. What surprises me (somewhat) is the degree to which even non-political people are empathing and experiencing the massive energies swirling around. So many people tell me about huge arguments in their microcosm, which exactly mirror huge arguments in the macrocosm. Or about feeling a need to suppress emotions and opinions in order to keep the peace, but then having physical symptoms arise that demand attention.

As within, so without. As without, so within. Add to this dynamic the struggle between the current energy pushing towards revelation and awakening — including rude awakening — fighting against the desire to shove unpleasant truths back under the rug, and we’ve got a roiling, boiling collective threatening to break the dam. Coincidentally, we also have a crisis at Oroville Dam — whose inadequate/defective spillways demanded (but did not receive) attention 12 years ago. Regardless of whether or not that dam creates a 100-foot tsunami of water through Continue reading

Follow-Up to the Fukushima Post

My Medical Intuitive Observations about Fukushima Radiation post triggered some appreciative, insightful and also intensely reactive comments on other blogs, raising a few points that I feel led to address here in case they add additional clarity for people. I also encourage people to check out the many inspired and heart-full comments left on the original post here. I have not had time to address each person individually, but I do appreciate everyone who has shared their experiences, opinions and wisdom. I enjoy hearing from you, and I love that people are paying it forward even through this blog.

A discussion came up following my article, re-posted on Jean Haines’ blog, regarding over-giving not healing people, with specific reference to Lyme Disease as something that tends to plague over-givers. Just wanted to share my responses here for clarity:

laurabruno says:
Thank you for opening this discussion. From the context of my own blog readers, this topic has been covered in many previous posts, including on Lyme Disease, finding boundaries with narcissists and reinvesting one’s energy into appropriately balanced channels that give back, too. This article on its own simply shares what I have noticed happening, which as I said, may only be with a small percentage of people or as my last paragraphs say, we may all just be FUK’d and need a miracle. Here is my Lyme article. I have worked with many Lyme clients, helped my ex husband heal from Lyme and also recovered from it myself. https://laurabruno.wordpress.com/2009/09/24/healing-lyme-disease/

Many Blessings and thank you for raising these issues here, since Jean’s readers haven’t had two years of me talking about boundaries. 🙂
Reply

laurabruno says:
January 8, 2014 at 6:10 pm

Also, just to clarify that I am referring to a difference between codependent over giving and being generous from the deepest core of soul and Self –the difference between depletion and radiance. 🙂

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On a different blog, which I won’t name here so as not to fuel the fires over there, my Medical Intuitive Observations about Fukushima Radiation article triggered accusations of me being everything from:

1) A fundamentalist Christian Bible-thumper (still completely tickled about that one!) 😉

2) The initiator of dark Arconic energy attacks (perhaps even being part of the off-world Arconic control network believed to be responsible for all the evils on this planet)

3) An un-evolved, greedy egomaniac who has no business offering advice or “healing”

[Update and Full disclosure: this is a conflation of two people’s ongoing comments, the originals of which you can read by clicking here, since G linked to this post from the one I had hoped not to create further fire storms on. One commenter took umbrage at this summary, and, yes, discerning readers will likely find the original comments far more eye-opening than my summary.]

4) “Just plain silly.” “Really a little silly.”

As a side note for people wanting to insult me or hurt my feelings: I take the word “silly” (from the original “Seelie”) as a high compliment, and probably always will. Those who know me will know why. 😉

Anyway, I’m not going to post all the comments, as the summary above covers most of the ones I’d like to address here. I’ll just post my replies below, in case they clarify things that others wondered but didn’t ask:

Laura Bruno:

Wow, P_____, I am sorry you felt so non-resonant with this article and took one Bible verse as hammering you over the head with guilt and shame. If you were familiar with my work, you would know that I have had my own kundalini awakening from a 1998 brain injury, volunteer extensively in my community, and that I am anything but a fundamentalist Bible thumper. This is one of only a few Bible passages I’ve ever quoted over the years on my blog, and I do not personally practice that tradition. I wish you much healing or peace or whatever it is you would most love, and I will simply reiterate this bolded part of the article:

“All of which is to say: take my observations however you will. I offer them here not as a definitive, provable conclusion, but rather in hopes that they may help people to live more fully, generously and healthily in these extremely challenging and exciting times.”

If you didn’t take them that way, then my observations are not a match for you. I’ve now received personal emails and comments from dozens of people who felt truly loved and understood by this post. I wish you heartfelt comfort through yourself, Spirit or someone else with whom you resonate. Peace … Laura

And after the above reply resulted in more strongly worded variants of items 2 thru 4 above:

S______ and P_____, I wish you both well and will just reiterate what I have shared in the article, disclaimers and all, including the idea that sharing one’s gifts does not need to mean everyone quits their day job and becomes a healer. Shoveling a neighbor’s driveway can be a gift — and I have no doubt P____ would have experienced it as such. Art, poetry and hand me down clothes can be a gift. My point was and remains to do what you can with what you have wherever you are.

I shared about the kundalini awakening to attempt to let P____ know that if she had delved a little deeper, she would have found some similarities and sympathy from me rather than an attack. Perhaps these Julian Rose articles articulate my underlying point far better than I apparently have in my article:

http://www.changingcourseforlife.info/2014/01/you-may-wake-up-but-will-you-get-out-of-bed/

http://www.changingcourseforlife.info/2013/11/at-the-point-of-no-return/

Wishing you both heartfelt blessings.

I also wanted to share three other comments: the first, posted on my repost of the Julian Rose article “You May Wake Up, … But Will You Get Out of Bed,” the second, my response to her, and the third, sent to me in a private email, minus any identifying details. These additional comments reveal so much of what I’d love to convey to others:

Posted by Mary on January 8, 2014 at 4:12 pm

Another great post and so much along the lines of the guidance I’ve been hearing lately.

Just this morning – for myself and others who might still be on the fence, unsure of where you fit in : “Just do *something*, try any activity of service until you find one that clicks. If you want the Universe to respond to your cries of putting you into service, you need to create ripples of the vibration you want more of. Get up, get out and try new things until you find something that fits.”

I’ve been hearing, almost over a loudspeaker, “Now is the Time”, get up, get moving, do something!

Thank you for these posts because they validate in the physical what has been coming through for me.

Posted by laurabruno on January 8, 2014 at 4:20 pm

You’re welcome. It also reminds me of Rob Hopkins (the founder of the Transition Town concept): “The Power of Just Doing Stuff.”

As Transition’s “cheerful disclaimer” states, “we truly don’t know if this will work. Transition is a social experiment on a massive scale. What we are convinced of is this:

if we wait for governments, it’ll be too little, too late
if we act as individuals, it’ll be too little
but if we act as communities, it might just be enough, just in time.”

Sent to me via private email:

You know what i find so interesting is that the finer connections in your writing, which I have not read anywhere before have been acknowledged, the connection between receiving gifts and giving back, cancer, radiation and transmuting, i get the feeling that kind of flew over the heads of many but those that are paying attention, embrace that understanding in their hearts, it will bring about profound shifts for them, quickly, especially those on the west coast, in the Islands, especially if they have kids, of what to do, how to face a very palpable fear as radiation exposure is always viewed as a no win, game over scenario for humans.

This whole understanding of humans being capable of transmuting ‘dense’ energy such as toxic radiation isn’t being discussed, until now. You’re trying to get that door opened. You would think others would be trying to help you instead of offering resistance. They will, other intuitives will be coming forward echoing the same as it’s in the collective now. I find it interesting how you’ve been introduced and getting such benefit from Orgonite at this exact time as its role is transmuting toxic energy into high vibe energy, pure alchemy!

blessings! 🙂

Yes, blessings, indeed! No one said these were easy times, but they are richly layered and deepening times. Healing times. They are times for speaking the Truth in Love and for letting our actions express the true love within our hearts. Again, I encourage people to check out the wonderful sharing in the comments on the original post. Also, if you have not read those two Julian Rose posts linked above, please do click through if you feel so led:

http://www.changingcourseforlife.info/2014/01/you-may-wake-up-but-will-you-get-out-of-bed/

http://www.changingcourseforlife.info/2013/11/at-the-point-of-no-return/

Julian’s on the front lines of rallying the troops of love, freedom and healing, realizing the first two as key requirements for the third to happen — on any level.

Blessed Be!

Changing Dynamics of Relationships

A re-post and new intro today, since this topic has been floating around in my own personal life, as well as in many sessions about relationships — romantic, friendship, family, or otherwise.

As realities shift, many lifelong over-givers have been feeling a call to pull back some of their energy, to offer less imbalanced support to people with whom there’s not an equivalent exchange. This shift, though actually healthier and more in balance for an over-giver, often triggers surprise, and sometimes condescension, judgment or other reaction from those accustomed to being on the receiving end of the extra giving. It also seems counter-intuitive in this time of becoming less selfish and more aware of all of our deep interconnections, and as a result, many of these people, myself included sometimes, dip into feeling bad about doing what they know they need to do. Such knowledge may arrive as a result of the consistent physical, emotional, mental and/or spiritual relief that the pull-backs provide, or due to the overwhelming backlash that codependent old ways now generate.

This creates an interesting dynamic, because for the most part, humanity is being asked to step more into a giving mode — more into actually using our gifts for the benefit of others. It’s kind of like that little Sunday School song, “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine… Hide it under a bushel, no! I’m gonna let it shine.” When the people who’ve been shining for a long time — even sometimes “over” shining to make up for others who are less sure of themselves or for whatever other reason not shining their own gifts out into the world — feel called to pull back, it’s not about those over-shiners suddenly becoming selfish. It’s about a return to balance so that the ones hiding under a bushel have more incentive to tap into their own courage (perhaps through necessity, perhaps through compassion realizing that they are the ones with the power to change what they want changed). The new dynamic potentially offers a trigger for the less sure to shine brighter.

Where you sit on this continuum depends on how much you’ve already been shining your light. “From those to whom much has been given, much will be required.” Sometimes it seems we are already giving “enough,” but in these times it helps to make an honest assessment of just how much we’ve been offering and in what ways. Exploring ripple effects of perceived service can help to determine whether we’re being asked to give more, take less, or to reinvest our energies in different ways. The people I know who’ve felt called to pull back from imbalanced relationships aren’t sitting on their butts doing nothing with that reclaimed energy! On the contrary, many of us have felt called to become more involved in local, community building or in offering support to newly encountered people we sense are truly on the brink of change. Some of us are on a massive creative kick, writing books, painting, healing the Earth … and sharing those creations with others.

“Sharing those creations with others.” That last part also provides a clue, because if you’ve reclaimed energy in one area only to reinvest it strongly in other areas, then there’s no reason for you to you to feel guilty about being “selfish,” “superficial,” “unevolved,” or for “denying help” to the planet. You’ve simply changed the energy exchange to one that feels more compatible, satisfying or useful.

This article isn’t about judgment; it’s just an article to help shine light on some of the trickier emotions these changing relationship dynamics can bring up. For that purpose, I’m re-posting an earlier article called, “Rejection, Projection, and Reflection,” which offers some mirrors and guidance on how to wade through potentially murky areas looking for clarity and balance. It also goes along with Tania Marie’s post yesterday about Raw Honesty. These times require such honesty, but they also require a willingness to live and let live. Sometimes people are simply “not a match,” and that doesn’t mean one needs to be wrong and the other right. Sometimes you just don’t mesh, and separation comes easily. For stickier, trickier encounters, there’s this:

Rejection, Projection and Reflection

Ah, rejection! No one likes it, but everyone has felt it at one time or another. Rejection comes in many forms: romantic relationships, contests, writer’s group critiques, friendships, job interviews or credit applications. Some people feel depressed about it, while others grow angry or challenge themselve to rise above the snub. Besides sadness, by far the most common companion of rejection is projection. Although the “p” word can initially offset your hurt, it doesn’t help you move forward.

This article explores projection and helps you to recognize it in your life. For the projectee (anyone unlucky enough to stand in line of the projector’s fire), I also discuss the concept of reflection. Many projectors mistakenly assume they are, in fact, reflectors. The distinction becomes especially confusing for people who do reflect most of the time, yet still have a tendency to project when they feel challenged or rejected. This article gives tips to help you tell the difference.

You might be projecting if:

1) You assume someone must have massive issues, complete ignorance, a guru complex, psychosis, arrogance or hubris, control issues, or a secret evil agenda if s/he has gently or firmly declined your advances. If you feel these things about people in your field who have experienced greater attention or success than you have, it’s also time to look at your own tendency to project.

2) You consistently encounter people who (you think) get a sick pleasure out of devaluing your gifts. These people initially seem like helpers, supporters and encouragers. S/he may be a counselor, coach, minister, or yoga teacher, perhaps just an acquaintance whom you very much admire. All seems well when you ask them for advice, which they give freely. But then they inexplicably “turn on you and devalue you” by not buying your book, linking to you on their website, or otherwise returning the favor of asking you for advice and guidance. How dare they think they’re better than you! They must not want you to succeed because they couldn’t handle your competition! They’re not evolved, and they don’t want anyone else to evolve either. In fact, they want to suppress and enslave, feeding off the energy of their unwilling and deluded fans. OMG! You have just narrowly escaped from one of the most controlling and insidious creatures on the planet! …

If this scenario has happened to you to some degree even once, then you may have a tendency to project in two ways. First, you’re likely giving someone higher status as a guru than s/he wants. You give away your power to your own idea, rather than to the person. This is your responsibility, not theirs. No one can take your power.

When things shift and s/he rejects you, you may suddenly “recognize what’s happening.” This recognition often involves controlling you or using power to manipulate you and hold you down. Although cults and narcissists do exist, if the initial description sounds valid, then it’s more likely that you’re superimposing a plot on a simple yet hard to swallow fact: as the movie says, “He’s Just Not that Into You.” Or s/he’s busy. Or s/he has other things going on. Or s/he feels compassion rather than passion.

Ego will go to great lengths to find any other explanation. If the reasons for negative things occurring in your life routinely involve a conspiracy theory or the hubris or complete ignorance and depravity of those from whom you have received help or sought favor or if the reasons allow you to feel condescending to someone whose approval and recognition you still secretly desire, then it’s time to explore your own patterns and projections.

3 ) Someone else is always responsible for your failed intentions.

4 ) You believe busy people spend their free time exploring ways to sabotage your business, personal growth or reputation.

5 ) When giving “constructive criticism” or “enlightenment,” you feel the need to hide behind your degree, your diet, your religion, your bank balance, or “Anonymous.”

6 ) When you try to reveal this “insider information” to the public, no one you admire has any interest in spreading your gossip, but they do offer you “lots of love and healing.” If compassionate people sense you are projecting, they may not always come right out and say so. They may instead try to offer you support for what they see as the root cause of your behavior: grief, frustration, insecurity, envy.

Of course, they then run the risk of revealing their own “evil, controlling guru complexes” by devaluing your insider information. Some people are willing to run that risk, though, if they sense you’re really struggling or have temporarily lost touch with reality.

7 ) If you have ever had or suspected you currently have B-12 deficiency, you really might want to get that checked or start taking a sublingual or spray B-12. “B-12 madness” has been linked to cases of acute psychosis and paranoid delusions. Slightly low levels can also cause general, unwarranted suspicion.

8 ) You view the world as a constant battle between good and evil.

9 ) You feel the need to launch personal attacks in areas that have nothing to do with the situation at hand. Examples include: suggesting someone’s a bad spouse in order to bolster your argument that they’re unqualified to teach seventh grade or drive a truck; calling someone arrogant for buying organic food; extracting tidbits from people’s blogs or websites and assuming you know their entire life and motivations; refusing to consider context as a factor when assessing character or causation; citing gossip magazines as a way to judge acting ability.

10 ) If your primary emotions are anger, rage, disgust, fear, judgment or hatred, you are not “reflecting so brightly that no one can handle your radiance and truth.” You are almost certainly projecting, at least in some areas.

You might be reflecting if:

1 ) Despite someone accusing you of horrible character and actions, you primarily feel love, compassion and understanding for them. If you can recognize the hurt beneath their anger and send love to it, then you are likely reflecting.

2 ) You do not feel afraid to look at the criticism and use it as a means to explore your own character, skills, talent and motivations. Are there areas where the comments ring true? Can you learn something even from mean-spirited feedback? Might there be a tiny bit of truth to the accusations and if so, how can you improve your technique, delivery or presentation in the future? What blind spots does this encounter reveal? Bright, shiny people are not afraid to look inside themselves or to ask for honest feedback from people they respect and admire.

3 ) Before anyone asked you this, have you already explored ways in which you might be projecting? Hint: reflectors ponder the possibility. Projectors rarely go there first, if at all.

4 ) Have you recently received recognition for long, hard effort on your part? Has your visibility ramped up? When reflectors suddenly become brighter reflectors on a bigger stage, they often experience a backlash from those who feel left behind.

5 ) Do the accusations seem 180 degrees away from truth? Examples may include: someone calling you “fame hungry” when you’ve always tried to stay in the background; people saying you took away their power after you showed them their own responsibility in their lives; friends assuming you’re “too good for them” or “too high and mighty” now that you’ve “made it big,” when you just want to share your joy and tell them you believe in them.

6 ) You’ve worked through a lifetime (or many lifetimes) of issues and finally accept your calling/mission/dream/bliss, only to have people attack your character for doing so. They tell you, “you’re not so special,” and you agree. You tell them they could live their dreams, too, but this inexplicably fans the fire of their rage.

7 ) None of your other clients/friends/lovers/colleagues can fathom the accusations.

8 ) You had a funny feeling about getting involved with someone, but compassion led you to help them anyway. When you created and maintained boundaries, the person freaked out.

9 ) You harbor no ill will to the person(s), but you do hope they get the help, support and love they need.

10 ) You choose to defend yourself without attacking the other person.

11 ) You can recognize this experience in a larger context, perhaps as an indirect answer to your own prayers and intentions to leave a relationship, move, change careers, or make some other shift. Reflectors understand that the universe always responds to their own energy and intentions. They accept appropriate responsibility and know when to stand firm and when to go with the flow. They choose to embrace, while projectors react. Reflectors rejoice in a chance to polish themselves and shine even brighter.

Many Blessings on your Journey!

Rejection, Projection and Reflection

Ah, rejection! No one likes it, but everyone has felt it at one time or another. Rejection comes in many forms: romantic relationships, contests, writer’s group critiques, friendships, job interviews or credit applications. Some people feel depressed about it, while others grow angry or challenge themselve to rise above the snub. Besides sadness, by far the most common companion of rejection is projection. Although the “p” word can initially offset your hurt, it doesn’t help you move forward.

This article explores projection and helps you to recognize it in your life. For the projectee (anyone unlucky enough to stand in line of the projector’s fire), I also discuss the concept of reflection. Many projectors mistakenly assume they are, in fact, reflectors. The distinction becomes especially confusing for people who do reflect most of the time, yet still have a tendency to project when they feel challenged or rejected. This article gives tips to help you tell the difference.

You might be projecting if:

1)  You assume someone must have massive issues, complete ignorance, a guru complex, psychosis, arrogance or hubris, control issues, or a secret evil agenda if s/he has gently or firmly declined your advances. If you feel these things about people in your field who have experienced greater attention or success than you have, it’s also time to look at your own tendency to project.

2)  You consistently encounter people who (you think) get a sick pleasure out of devaluing your gifts. These people initially seem like helpers, supporters and encouragers. S/he may be a counselor, coach, minister, or yoga teacher, perhaps just an acquaintance whom you very much admire. All seems well when you ask them for advice, which they give freely. But then they inexplicably “turn on you and devalue you” by not buying your book, linking to you on their website, or otherwise returning the favor of asking you for advice and guidance. How dare they think they’re better than you! They must not want you to succeed because they couldn’t handle your competition! They’re not evolved, and they don’t want anyone else to evolve either.  In fact, they want to suppress and enslave, feeding off the energy of their unwilling and deluded fans. OMG! You have just narrowly escaped from one of the most controlling and insidious creatures on the planet!  …

If this scenario has happened to you to some degree even once, then you may have a tendency to project in two ways. First, you’re likely giving someone higher status as a guru than s/he wants. You give away your power to your own idea, rather than to the person. This is your responsibility, not theirs. No one can take your power.

When things shift and s/he rejects you, you may suddenly”recognize what’s happening.” This recognition often involves controlling you or using power to manipulate you and hold you down. Although cults and narcissists do exist, if the initial description sounds valid, then it’s more likely that you’re superimposing a plot on a simple yet hard to swallow fact: as the movie says, “He’s Just Not that Into You.” Or s/he’s busy. Or s/he has other things going on. Or s/he feels compassion rather than passion.

Ego will go to great lengths to find any other explanation. If the reasons for negative things occurring in your life routinely involve a conspiracy theory or the hubris or complete ignorance and depravity of those from whom you have received help or sought favor, then it’s time to explore your own patterns and projections. 

3 )  Someone else is always responsible for your failed intentions.

4 )  You believe busy people spend their free time exploring ways to sabotage your business, personal growth or reputation.

5 )  When giving “constructive criticism” or “enlightenment,” you feel the need to hide behind your degree, your diet, your religion, your bank balance, or “Anonymous.”

6 )  When you try to reveal this “insider information” to the public, no one you admire has any interest in spreading your gossip, but they do offer you “lots of love and healing.” If compassionate people sense you are projecting, they may not always come right out and say so. They may instead try to offer you support for what they see as the root cause of your behavior: grief, frustration, insecurity, envy.

Of course, they then run the risk of revealing their own “evil, controlling guru complexes” by devaluing your insider information. Some people are willing to run that risk, though, if they sense you’re really struggling or have temporarily lost touch with reality.

7 )  If you have ever had or suspected you currently have B-12 deficiency, you really might want to get that checked or start taking a sublingual or spray B-12. “B-12 madness” has been linked to cases of acute psychosis and paranoid delusions. Slightly low levels can also cause general, unwarranted suspicion.

8 ) You view the world as a constant battle between good and evil.

9 ) You feel the need to launch personal attacks in areas that have nothing to do with the situation at hand. Examples include: suggesting someone’s a bad spouse in order to bolster your argument  that they’re unqualified to teach seventh grade or drive a truck; calling someone arrogant for buying organic food; extracting tidbits from people’s blogs or websites and assuming you know their entire life and motivations; refusing to consider context as a factor when assessing character or causation; citing gossip magazines as a way to judge acting ability.

10 ) If your primary emotions are anger, rage, disgust, fear, judgment or hatred, you are not “reflecting so brightly that no one can handle your radiance and truth.” You are almost certainly projecting, at least in some areas.

You might be reflecting if:

1 ) Despite someone accusing you of horrible character and actions, you primarily feel love, compassion and understanding for them. If you can recognize the hurt beneath their anger and send love to it, then you are likely reflecting.

2 ) You do not feel afraid to look at the criticism and use it as a means to explore your own character, skills, talent and motivations.   Are there areas where the comments ring true? Can you learn something even from mean-spirited feedback? Might there be a tiny bit of truth to the accusations and if so, how can you improve your technique, delivery or presentation in the future? What blind spots does this encounter reveal? Bright, shiny people are not afraid to look inside themselves or to ask for honest feedback from people they respect and admire.

3 ) Before anyone asked you this, have you already explored ways in which you might be projecting? Hint: reflectors ponder the possibility. Projectors rarely go there first, if at all.

4 ) Have you recently received recognition for long, hard effort on your part? Has your visibility ramped up? When reflectors suddenly become brighter reflectors on a bigger stage, they often experience a backlash from those who feel left behind.

5 ) Do the accusations seem 180 degrees away from truth? Examples may include: someone calling you “fame hungry” when you’ve always tried to stay in the background; people saying you took away their power after you showed them their own responsibility in their lives; friends assuming you’re “too good for them” or “too high and mighty” now that you’ve “made it big,” when you just want to share your joy and tell them you believe in them.

6 ) You’ve worked through a lifetime (or many lifetimes) of issues and finally accept your calling/mission/dream/bliss, only to have people attack your character for doing so. They tell you, “you’re not so special,” and you agree. You tell them they could live their dreams, too, but this inexplicably fans the fire of their rage.

7 ) None of your other clients/friends/lovers/colleagues can fathom the accusations.

8 ) You had a funny feeling about getting involved with someone, but compassion led you to help them anyway. When you created and maintained boundaries, the person freaked out.

9 ) You harbor no ill will to the person(s), but you do hope they get the help, support and love they need.

10 ) You choose to defend yourself without attacking the other person.

11 ) You can recognize this experience in a larger context, perhaps as an indirect answer to your own prayers and intentions to leave a relationship, move, change careers, or make some other shift. Reflectors understand that the universe always responds to their own energy and intentions. They accept appropriate responsibility and know when to stand firm and when to go with the flow. They choose to embrace, while projectors react. Reflectors rejoice in a chance to polish themselves and shine even brighter. 

Many Blessings on your Journey!

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