Posts Tagged ‘Faery Rules’

Fabulous Interview with Laura Daligan

I found this video yesterday, and it’s both delightful and informative! Crystal, Laura and other guests and write-in questioners discuss the Faery Realm, Glastonbury’s energies, Faery Queens and Faery Kings, etiquette when dealing with the Fae and what happens when you offend them, as well as many tips for rekindling your own connection with these heartfelt friends from the Otherworld. Regular blog readers will notice major similarities in things I’ve shared and the things shared by Laura Daligan and the other speakers. To me, that striking similarity underscores the validity of our individual experiences. If you’ve got 40 minutes and have any interest at all in faeries, imagination, or deepening your connection to nature, I hope you love this talk as much as I did. 🙂

Coffee & Inspiration with Crystal Starshine ~ Special Guest Laura Daligan

More Tips for Connecting with the Faeries

This is a follow-up post to my earlier Quick Tips for Interacting with Faeries. Today’s post goes more in-depth and answers some questions and concerns readers, clients and local people have raised in the past nine months. If you’ve not read the previous post, you might want to glance through it, since it covers the three Faery Rules: “No Rudeness,” “Respect, Not Control,” and “A Person’s Word is Bond.” Today’s post assumes at least a basic understanding of these rules.

How do I know what a faery considers “rude,” and what happens if I accidentally offend a faery?

At its most basic, “rudeness” means failing to show good manners. Ask before you take. If you wish to form (and maintain) a friendship with a faery, approach them kindly and with respect for differences in culture and expectations. If you need a favor, then don’t expect or demand it for free. Accept that if you can’t do something yourself and require assistance, then perhaps those helping you are not lesser beings than you just because you can’t see them or understand how they do what they do. Faeries have extreme distaste for obnoxious braggarts, so don’t be the equivalent of bulls in their China shop with loud, aggressive demands, boasts or judgments. Especially don’t judge the fact that faeries have notoriously quick tempers and thin skins. They’re sensitive. That’s probably partly why you feel drawn to connect with them in the first place — for their closer ties with and understanding of Nature (including human nature) and for their abilities to recognize subtleties and initiate small, almost imperceptible shifts for big results.

“No Rudeness” includes aspects of the other two rules.

“Respect, Not Control”: faeries are not your little helpers or slaves. They will help you if they feel like helping you, if they deem you worthy and/or if they anticipate some kind of fair exchange. If you continue to ask for help without taking the time and effort to sense what they would like in return, then they will likely deem you unworthy of further investment. This likelihood increases if you not only fail to exchange something desirable but instead insult them by denying their existence, mocking them, or otherwise poking their sensitive spots.

Most faeries consider helping humans a necessary evil, since they realize a human world with no faery influence equals a completely destroyed Earth. Though reluctant to interact, some faeries have accepted the challenge to form friendships with humans and actually enjoy the connections. Don’t push it, though. By nature, humans are far less sensitive than faeries, and faeries can only muster so much tolerance for “unintentional” rudeness. Attempting to increase your own sensitivities is usually considered a good faith gesture, provided you intend to use those sensitivities for reasons other than just enhancing your own good fortune. The faeries willing to work with humans are hardcore in their dedication to saving this planet. They expect at least a modicum of similar dedication on the part of the humans with whom they agree to work.

Faeries speak in the language of symbols and gifts — and especially of symbolic gifts. Take care to select appropriate gifts — not just those things you yourself would like. Remember, you’re dealing with multidimensional, poetic beings, so consult your heart or pay attention to things that seem to excite and delight your faery friends. When in doubt, gestures to clean up Nature or add beauty are fairly safe bets. Ugliness and industrialization both strike faeries as extremely “rude,” so any efforts to smooth sharp lines, cover electronics, add spots of color and delights for the senses usually rate high on the faery gift’o’meter. Crystals, “coin” and homemade items also meet with faery approval.

If you want to make a deal with a faery and sense that faery wants something you are not prepared to gift or pay, then you would be wise to forgo that faery’s help. Remember, “A Person’s Word is Bond.” Better not to offer than to offer and think that faery will let you off the hook. While they might allow you to skate by without following through on your end of the bargain, you likely won’t receive another chance to prove yourself honorable. They will accept you not accepting their help in the first place, but if they keep their end of the bargain and you don’t, then prepare for removal of any faery protections they may have freely gifted you for being their friend. Most won’t curse you — although plenty of faery tales describe such things. People just rarely realize how generous their faery friends become, since most of the gifts remain in the invisible realm. How does one prove the positive synchronicities stem from faery blessings? How does one explain that the absence of faery blessings is not a curse, though it may feel like one to someone who has grown accustomed to such favor?

Attempts to control faeries or tell them how to do their jobs usually result in mischief or at least a revocation of formerly favored status. Again, if you require their help, then you are, presumably, not the expert. If you think you can do these things yourself, then don’t ask for faery help unless you intend to exchange value for value. If you hold your request very dear, then don’t expect something of little value to express your gratitude. Note: for faeries, “value” need not mean “expensive.” “Value” means “dear.” A heartfelt offering shows its heartfelt status by honoring what the faery holds dear. Again, beauty, something homemade, crystals, “coin” (which can mean a gift of money, but oftentimes means a gift of something that cost you money, rather than the money itself), something that helps Nature … such things make appropriate gifts.

If you fear you have offended the Fae and really want to maintain your friendship with them, then any or all of the following might help:

1) Eat some humble pie and acknowledge your mistake or transgression.

2) Offer to make some kind of restitution, i.e. extra gifts to Nature or the willingness to talk positively about faeries with people who don’t believe in them. Allowing yourself to look foolish for the sake of improving faery-human relations gets extra credit as an apology.

3) Create an extremely fun, silly and/or delightful diversion. Faeries naturally love fun, and the ones who work with humans often get less of it than they need. Playing beautiful music and dancing, tickling a faery’s funny bone, reading (good) poetry aloud, painting or decorating a space in more harmonious ways — especially an outdoor space — wins big points.

If you wish to endear yourself to the Fae, find ways to lift their spirits even when you don’t need a favor and when you haven’t offended them.

Again, touches of beauty go far. Faery bling in the garden. Planting flowers in your vegetable beds. Reducing harsh lines and signs of the industrial revolution.

Faeries are also highly romantic, so any celebrations of true love give them heartfelt delight.

Laughter, giggles, good-spirited puns — including theatrically acted out puns — costumes or clothing with flair, vignettes and quirky arrangements feel like balm to the faery psyche, encouraging the Fae to venture further and longer into a usually too harsh human environment. If you can keep them engaged with little jokes, giggly-winks, and thoughtful gifts, they will love you and value your presence enough to excuse occasional rough spots or overstepping of boundaries.

When the faeries love you, they will gladly shower you with gifts and good will, pulling strings to help you along, offering well timed advice (either directly or through their human allies), and generously showering their faery hugs and pixie dust upon you. Life becomes magical and feels like the Universe winks and smiles at you as you go about your day. Your faery friends will get to know you well. You can show them honor and respect by getting to know them well, too. If you work with individual faeries, learn their individual preferences and quirks. As with humans, general rules apply, but unique relationships acquire their own subtle dynamics, blessings and benefits. When in doubt, return to the Faery Rules and then refine them as circumstances and your heart lead.

Blessed Be ….

and be the blessing!

 

Rumpelstiltskin

A little Halloween fun for you … and quite in line with recent themes on this blog — for those with eyes to see and ears to hear. 😉

Fairy Tales by the Brothers Grimm

Rumpelstiltskin

By the side of a wood, in a country a long way off, ran a fine stream of water; and upon the stream there stood a mill. The miller’s house was close by, and the miller, you must know, had a very beautiful daughter. She was, moreover, very shrewd and clever; and the miller was so proud of her, that he one day told the king of the land, who used to come and hunt in the wood, that his daughter could spin gold out of straw. Now this king was very fond of money; and when he heard the miller’s boast his greediness was raised, and he sent for the girl to be brought before him. Then he led her to a chamber in his palace where there was a great heap of straw, and gave her a spinning-wheel, and said, ’All this must be spun into gold before morning, as you love your life.’ It was in vain that the poor maiden said that it was only a silly boast of her father, for that she could do no such thing as spin straw into gold: the chamber door was locked, and she was left alone.

She sat down in one corner of the room, and began to bewail her hard fate; when on a sudden the door opened, and a droll-looking little man hobbled in, and said, ’Good morrow to you, my good lass; what are you weeping for?’ ’Alas!’ said she, ’I must spin this straw into gold, and I know not how.’ ’What will you give me,’ said the hobgoblin, ’to do it for you?’ ’My necklace,’ replied the maiden. He took her at her word, and sat himself down to the wheel, and whistled and sang:

’Round about, round about,
Lo and behold!
Reel away, reel away,
Straw into gold!’

And round about the wheel went merrily; the work was quickly done, and the straw was all spun into gold.

When the king came and saw this, he was greatly astonished and pleased; but his heart grew still more greedy of gain, and he shut up the poor miller’s daughter again with a fresh task. Then she knew not what to do, and sat down once more to weep; but the dwarf soon opened the door, and said, ’What will you give me to do your task?’ ’The ring on my finger,’ said she. So her little friend took the ring, and began to work at the wheel again, and whistled and sang:

’Round about, round about,
Lo and behold!
Reel away, reel away,
Straw into gold!’

till, long before morning, all was done again.

The king was greatly delighted to see all this glittering treasure; but still he had not enough: so he took the miller’s daughter to a yet larger heap, and said, ’All this must be spun tonight; and if it is, you shall be my queen.’ As soon as she was alone that dwarf came in, and said, ’What will you give me to spin gold for you this third time?’ ’I have nothing left,’ said she. ’Then say you will give me,’ said the little man, ’the first little child that you may have when you are queen.’ ’That may never be,’ thought the miller’s daughter: and as she knew no other way to get her task done, she said she would do what he asked. Round went the wheel again to the old song, and the manikin once more spun the heap into gold. The king came in the morning, and, finding all he wanted, was forced to keep his word; so he married the miller’s daughter, and she really became queen.

At the birth of her first little child she was very glad, and forgot the dwarf, and what she had said. But one day he came into her room, where she was sitting playing with her baby, and put her in mind of it. Then she grieved sorely at her misfortune, and said she would give him all the wealth of the kingdom if he would let her off, but in vain; till at last her tears softened him, and he said, ’I will give you three days’ grace, and if during that time you tell me my name, you shall keep your child.’

Now the queen lay awake all night, thinking of all the odd names that she had ever heard; and she sent messengers all over the land to find out new ones. The next day the little man came, and she began with TIMOTHY, ICHABOD, BENJAMIN, JEREMIAH, and all the names she could remember; but to all and each of them he said, ’Madam, that is not my name.’

The second day she began with all the comical names she could hear of, BANDY-LEGS, HUNCHBACK, CROOK-SHANKS, and so on; but the little gentleman still said to every one of them, ’Madam, that is not my name.’

The third day one of the messengers came back, and said, ’I have travelled two days without hearing of any other names; but yesterday, as I was climbing a high hill, among the trees of the forest where the fox and the hare bid each other good night, I saw a little hut; and before the hut burnt a fire; and round about the fire a funny little dwarf was dancing upon one leg, and singing:

’”Merrily the feast I’ll make.
Today I’ll brew, tomorrow bake;
Merrily I’ll dance and sing,
For next day will a stranger bring.
Little does my lady dream
Rumpelstiltskin is my name!”’

When the queen heard this she jumped for joy, and as soon as her little friend came she sat down upon her throne, and called all her court round to enjoy the fun; and the nurse stood by her side with the baby in her arms, as if it was quite ready to be given up. Then the little man began to chuckle at the thought of having the poor child, to take home with him to his hut in the woods; and he cried out, ’Now, lady, what is my name?’ ’Is it JOHN?’ asked she. ’No, madam!’ ’Is it TOM?’ ’No, madam!’ ’Is it JEMMY?’ ’It is not.’ ’Can your name be RUMPELSTILTSKIN?’ said the lady slyly. ’Some witch told you that!– some witch told you that!’ cried the little man, and dashed his right foot in a rage so deep into the floor, that he was forced to lay hold of it with both hands to pull it out.

Then he made the best of his way off, while the nurse laughed and the baby crowed; and all the court jeered at him for having had so much trouble for nothing, and said, ’We wish you a very good morning, and a merry feast, Mr RUMPLESTILTSKIN!’

 

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Quick Tips for Interacting with Faeries

I just returned from a book group during which people had questions about connecting with the Faery Realm. Since many people ask similar questions, I thought I’d share just a few tips here. Please bear in mind that this is not a comprehensive list!

1. Do you see them with your eyes? How can I see them with my own eyes?

Yes, sometimes I do see them with my physical eyes, but it is much more common for me — and many, many others, including prolific faery authors and people who’ve worked with faeries for decades — to recognize faeries with the inner eye. If you try too hard to focus with the outer eyes, then even the little glimpses you do catch often fade in an instant.

It is worth keeping in mind that:

a) Many faeries are extremely private and do not wish to be seen. Faery Lore offers many, many tales of people being blinded by faeries in the eye that sees them. Attempting to pressure faeries to show themselves to you when they do not wish to be seen in that way violates the first Faery Rule of “Respect, Not Control.”

b) Since faeries exist in the between spaces, shadows and other dimensions, peripheral vision often recognizes them better than head on vision.

c) Disney and the Victorians did a great disservice to humanity in promoting the idea that all faeries are flower fairies or Tinkerbells. Some faeries are 30 or more feet tall! Sometimes we do not see what we cannot handle. Faeries can shapeshift, and they will often present in the ways that we expect; however, some do reveal hints of their more authentic form to those whom they sense will not recoil. The Faery Realm reflects the human realm, but it is decidedly strange to those without much experience there. Since another Faery Rule is “No Rudeness,” many faeries automatically adapt their appearance to something less strange or awesome (in the literal sense of that word), just so that the humans don’t offend them by recoiling.

Deep work in the Faery Realm involves facing one’s Shadow, and that can take years or lifetimes. If you long to see faeries, then work more on getting to know your Shadow Side and learning to recognize the sacred in all things. Just as you might feel shy about showing yourself, warts and all, to a stranger, so these sensitive beings — of sometimes extreme power — have learned not to place themselves into situations that might result in hurt feelings and misunderstandings. Build up trust in the same way you would with a pen pal — respectfully, slowly, and honoring the other being for his or her own desires of what is or is not wanted from this relationship. Not all pen pals meet in person, but that does not preclude value in the exchanges!

2. How can I honor faeries, elementals and the land?

Many people emphasize offering small tokens of food like milk, cream, butter or chocolate, of which flower faeries are particularly fond! In Ancient Faery Lore, we hear of frequent exchanges among the faeries and humans; however, we also hear of the deals being forever ended if humans fail to reappear with the borrowed or requested item on time. The other Faery Rule, “A Person’s Word is Bond,” is taken very seriously on the Otherside. Unlike our world in which excuses play a huge role, when dealing with Nature and/or the Faery Realm, excuses don’t cut it. They’re much more like Yoda, “Do or do not, there is no try.”

When leaving offerings, consult your heart for whatever you feel led to do. Offer milk or physical items if you feel led, but know that many times the requests are for less tangible things. In my case, most of my faery articles spring forth as offerings. I know that writing about such matters makes many dismiss me as off my rocker; however, I also know that humans need the Faery Realm right now, more than ever before. Helping to dispel some of the disinformation, disempowered “traditions” and disrespectful approaches is one way that I give back to beings who continue to be extremely generous and loving towards me.

Artists of all sorts might dedicate a piece of music, pottery, painting or garden plot to the Faeries. Crystals and “coin” are also popular offerings — the original basis for our modern day “wishing wells.” One must give with a sincere and loving heart, though. As with tithing in church, just giving in order to get doesn’t usually pan out so well. Again, we return to “Respect, Not Control.” Faeries can read the intentions of your heart, and the oldest Faery Lore reveals a common theme of even poor, misguided people with pure hearts winning the support and magic of the Faery Realm.

When traveling to any foreign land, we’re wise to learn as much as we can about the language and culture, but we would also be wise to avoid stereotypes and prejudices. Respect and a loving heart will get you far, and will likely earn you powerful Faery Guardians and Guides who can help smooth the waters when you’ve accidentally made a gaff. Intentional rudeness always runs large risks, but those who sincerely and humbly wish to learn will eventually do so. “When the student is ready, the teacher appears” holds true in all realms.

Blessed Be

… and be the blessing!

A Message from the Faeries

I was asked to relay the following:

It has come to the attention of the Faery Realm that we are being unfairly and inaccurately linked to the implementation of Obamacare, the ability of politicians to crunch numbers — indeed, how absolutely barbaric (numbers are sacred, not some crispy, genetically modified snack to further manipulate!) — and to all manner of unlikely promises and claims flowing from the White House. Along with “elves,” “Gandalf,” “fairy tales” and “myths,” we faeries (also known as the Disney-fied spelling of “fairies”) and the elementals (though unmentioned by your journalists), would like to go on record that we have absolutely nothing to do with any such ridiculous things. The entire Faery Realm is peeved, quite peeved, and (in some cases) downright ornery, about such accusations.

Firstly, “fairy tales” and “myths” are not synonymous with un-Truth. On the contrary, fairy tales and myths represent some of the deepest and truest repositories of Ancient Wisdom. Furthermore, faeries, though tricky, do not lie. “A Person’s Word is Bond” is one of our three main Faery Rules, and — unlike humans — faeries actually enforce that Rule. When someone falsely gives his or her word, the Fae take action. Liars and thieves feel consequences when dealing with the Faery Realm. Better never to encounter a faery than to lie, steal from or otherwise abuse one. We hope you can see just how far apart we stand, fly and swim — dimensions apart — from anything associated with promising one thing and substituting something inferior or malicious.

Furthermore, anyone who tries to pull the old switcheroo on us, should prepare themselves for Faery Mischief. Though not evil, we can be quite maddening. The worse the offense, the greater the leaks, mishaps and humiliations become. “A Person’s Word is Bond,” we say, “so you can count on more where those came from. Much more. We enjoy showing arrogant humans how foolish they are and dropping the veils of poor imitation Faery Glamour. Moreover, woe to humans who promised to help the Earth then fracked the hell out of Her. Pusillanimous poppycocks! She is a living, breathing Being. We will not allow you to kill her. Better never to speak than to vow to protect your Mother only to invite corporate thugs to ravage her. You disgust us.”

Secondly, the next Faery Rule is “Respect, Not Control.” How anyone can confuse this Rule with Obamacare, the monopoly money debt slavery system, and all those ridiculous letters like NDAA, NSA, TSA, CIA, DHS, IRS, FDA, overseen by “czars,” truly strains credulity. The fact that you humans believe in your monetary system but not the Faery Realm would send us into giggle fits if it weren’t so sad. Do you not realize that Iceland and Ireland, two lands with the deepest connection between humans, elves and faeries, have done more to address the root cause of your “banking crises” than any of the so-called leader nations who think myth and fairy tales mean lies? You would do well to respect yourselves and to conduct yourselves in a manner that warrants respect. Those who vie to control others through psychiatric potions, word spells, torture and abuse would do well to honor this sage advice: “Don’t piss off the faeries.”

Those who are actually fighting for the same freedoms and healthy food, water and ecosystems that we support would do well to stop insulting us. You don’t need to join us, but we do suggest you respect us. You mock what you do not understand. We could help you, but some of us have thin wings and long fingers. We might pinch you if you keep slandering and attacking us without provocation. What have we ever done to deserve such mockery? It’s not your fault that those who dominate and control you minimized the records of our capabilities through mind-control efforts of Disney and centuries of persecution, but please don’t mock. Unlike most of you humans, we are acutely in touch with our emotions. It’s part of our charm, in all senses of that word. We cannot be held responsible for consequences that occur as a result of abusing our charms.

We can help you. Some of us are warriors. We have no interest in controlling you. We honor liberty. After all, we do like bells. Blue bells especially. We offer our assistance to those who honor the Ancient Ones and Natural Law. Keep in mind that the Wee Folk are not so little. Nor have we lost our self-respect. We know when and how to fight, and we follow through. How many of you scoffers can say the same? How many of you warriors couldn’t benefit from some extra-dimensional power and Glamour? Think wisely before rejecting kind offers from your Unseen Allies. As one of our human incarnations has been known to say, “The enemy of my enemy is my friend.”

Which brings us to the third Faery Rule: “No Rudeness.” Again, we find it unbelievable — nay, less believable than some of you find the prospect of our existence — unbelievable that you would conflate the rabid words and libel of your politicians with our noble Realm. Rudeness extends beyond not being polite, although as we explained above, many of you have not been polite to us. We can forgive your prior ignore-ance, but now you have been warned. Continued mockery will be taken as intentional rudeness.

Please bear in mind that rudeness also involves degrees of crassness, a lack of refinement, and a certain indescribable yet palpable ugliness, which offends those who honor and cultivate natural beauty, order and harmony. Your political stage is so far from even a poor imitation of natural beauty, order and harmony as to be mutually exclusive. Kindly refrain from sullying the Faery Realm, our inhabitants and visitors, as well as any of our literary and sacred treasures with the intolerable rudeness of your dimension.

Some of us would like to support a shift of your collective reality into one that more aligns with ours. We believe most of you would find life much more pleasant, elegant, enjoyable, fun and free. You would also feel dazzled by the natural beauty and refinement, and you would love our feasts! Not all of us wish to invite your messy boots into our world, but we will permit the intrusion and help to blend our respective (ahem!) worlds if you learn to follow three simple Rules. Please, if you would like to partner with us, you must remember:

A Person’s Word Is Bond
Respect, Not Control
No Rudeness

You have been contacted, warned and offered a choice. Please consider well, and choose wisely. The future of both of our dimensions may depend upon your choice. Blessed Be.