Posts Tagged ‘Boundaries’

Groundhog Wisdom: Editing for Flow in the Garden, Life and Lyme

I love how life brings themes to our attention on multiple levels at the same time. In my case, I feel the need to edit for flow in several areas of life: the garden, relationships, and my book-in-progress, The Metaphysics of Lyme Disease. Although editing can seem like a left-brained process, I find a gentle balance of observation, patterns and ease provides the best indication of what stays, what goes and what grows.

In the garden, this means acknowledging that groundhogs rule this part of Kalamazoo. Our next door neighbor has already trapped and relocated two “whistle pigs” this year, and we’ve got at least three more who venture into our yards from across the street. Two weekends ago, I spent hours adding compost to the front beds, eyeing gorgeous lettuce, which I planned to harvest that evening. I heard some joyful squeals across the street and thought, “Those groundhogs are excited I added compost, because the produce will taste better. They are gonna love this lettuce!” I dismissed the thought, because who listens to groundhogs, right? Who thinks groundhogs cheer because of garden nutrients?

David and I left for a couple hours to run errands, and when we returned I immediately sensed something amiss. I felt, but couldn’t see a groundhog. Big energy. Big appetite! As I looked for the culprit, I noticed all my flowering purple kale stripped to the stem. And my lettuce, oh, my lettuce! In the center of a round bed sat the tiniest groundhog I’ve ever seen, finishing off the last of it. Five inches long, he was the cutest dastardly thing and ate his weight in lettuce.

Out came the very stinky sprays, which I suspect I hate more than the critters do. Within five minutes, back came the little guy. He nibbled on a couple leaves of chard and echinacea, but they must have tasted awful with all that stinky stuff. He made his way across the street and let out a whistle like a rowdy teenager completing a dare. Very naughty! The next day, out waddled Big Fat Mama, sauntering across our front porch and diving into red clover I’d vaguely “heard” a message to weed every time I passed it for the past week. Big Fat Mama doesn’t care about spray. She just likes her some lettuce, kale and clover — even locating hidden ones I forgot about.

This might seem like a minor mishap, frustration or tragedy, but Groundhog (the spirit animal) provides wise guidance.

Groundhog Wisdom focuses on the importance of clear boundaries and the cycles of life, death/hibernation and rebirth. A shamanic totem, groundhog goes into the Underworld and safely returns. Groundhog’s long winter’s nap connects to Dreamtime, and Groundhog honors Ancestral Wisdom by passing along track ways to generation after generation, even with no direct, physical contact.

Also known as woodchucks, whistle pigs, or marmots, groundhogs are resourceful, intelligent, persistent, and great problem solvers. Groundhog reveals hidden desires and aversions. Although they look alike, groundhogs honor their own personal tastes. They eat what they love and avoid what they don’t. They bring focus to long, complex projects, and they can keep these projects secret until completion. They can burrow and tunnel vast distances, but also climb trees and outwit traps. They know how to disappear when necessary. They look cute, but their sharp teeth, strong claws and metabolic control demand respect.

All of these qualities connect Groundhog very closely to the Faery Realm. Do not underestimate Groundhog!

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Comment Bump Up and Response

Today’s post comes from a comment left on Friday’s re-blog of “Crossing our own boundaries: consent in the wake of ‘me too.'” I decided to turn the comment and reply into its own post, because this past weekend brought a wave of urgent requests from people for help freeing themselves from relationships with suspected and/or professionally diagnosed cluster-B personality disordered people, energy vampires, and/or black magic. These topics run close to the side issues in “Crossing our own boundaries,” as similar encounters early in life tend to prime someone for these kinds of relationships later in life.

This happens especially often to Empaths, and learning to discern patterns and reclaim sovereignty forms some of the most important healing we will ever do — as individuals and for our broken society. In the biggest picture, yes, All is Love, but at the level of PTSD in body, emotions, mind, soul and spirit, things can take longer to untangle and heal. Here’s the comment, followed by my response: Continue reading

Comment Bump Up About Boundaries and Expectations

This little comment exchange from the re-post “Expectations and Happiness” seems important to bump up, since the topic arises a lot during client sessions, as well as during conversations with colleagues needing to maintain balance in their lives so they don’t burn out. It also goes along with Tania Marie’s recent video message, which I also highly recommend.

Comments bumped up from Expectations and Happiness (I added paragraphs to mine for easier reading):

 

  • Posted by diana allen on February 19, 2016 at 9:33 pm  edit

    A couple weeks ago I was having lunch with a friend and she shared with me that in general, she has “really low expectations” of other people. I was so surprised! But she said someone once told her that people with lower expectations are happier than people with high expectations, and she too it to heart.

    Logically, I suppose this makes perfect sense. I’ve been happier in certain relationships after I decreased my expectations of the person. (I may think the relationship would be more fulfilling, for me anyway, if the other person WANTED to meet my expectations, but accepting that they didn’t allowed us to continue the friendship.) On the other hand, I think it’s important to know your own limits of what is and is not acceptable. You don’t have to go too low. Boundaries are a beautiful thing.

    xx

     

  • I agree, Diana, “Boundaries are a beautiful thing”! For me, that goes into the creating a new reality department: if people don’t meet my expectations of how I expect to be treated, then I downgrade their involvement in my life. I have layers upon layers of relationships, relatively few of which I consider fully mutual. In order to maintain a sense of balance, my relationships either involve some kind of supplementary energy exchange such as payment from clients, or I have categories of friends like “gardening friends” or “vegan lunchtime friends.”

    If someone expects something from me that is just so far above and beyond what I would ever consider asking from them or what I consider them capable of offering in terms of depth or understanding, then I might choose to gift that to them — under special circumstances, at my discretion — but to go on pretending that such relationships are balanced would be a toxic disservice to me, so I remove myself.

    I know this is a common theme among many people who live from a place of service, compassion and assistance. There’s a difference between charity work, paid work, what we consider casual acquaintances, and true blue friends. For me, the true blue friends are the ones who live from a similar level of awareness and generosity as I do. I expect very few people to live from that place, so I create and maintain my boundaries with that awareness.

    Every once in a great while, someone surprises me by moving from a lesser level of friendship into full on potential to live from that space. When I see that, those people move into the true blue friend category –not because I need them to, but because I recognize the commonality of experience and depth. Recognizing the different levels of consciousness and compassion, and honoring those differences without feeling guilty for “judging” others has greatly improved my own happiness quotient over the years! I have such low expectations from most people — while still always seeing their potential — that I’m constantly pleased and surprised when people do step up more into the fullness of who they are. 🙂

    Thanks for your comment!

    xx

 

Pam Younghans ~ North Point Astrology Journal

A little teaser and link to the rest of Pam’s post, which seems particularly resonant for this week’s energies:

Your guide to planetary energies for
January 18 to 24, 2016
By Pam Younghans
MANY OF US grew up with the concept that self-sacrifice is a vital component of living a spiritual life. As such, we judge ourselves harshly if we want “too much” for ourselves, if we aren’t putting others first in all ways.

But there are other times when we can access the larger perspective of life, and we become aware that what is truly best for one is actually best for all. The choice we make not to rescue another person — even if that decision comes from a place of sheer exhaustion — may be exactly what they need to learn important lessons about being responsible and taking care of themselves.

Read the rest of the post here.

James Gilliland ~ Happy New Year

James Gilliland
Happy New Year!
January 1, 2014

eceti.org

May You Be Blessed With Chaos!

Before you get confused as to whether this is a blessing let me explain. When you are engaging higher consciousness and energy and rising up the vibrational continuum chaos comes with the territory. Those who understand cymantics know when you introduce high frequency sound to sand patterns it disrupts the previous pattern which goes into chaos then reforms into a new more intricate evolved pattern. This is what humanity and the Earth is going through. All the ancients foretold about these times and it is cyclic, natural and the forces are cosmic in cause. Little hint about global warming – all the planets are going through transition, atmospheric changes and they don’t have cars on Mars. I have always been a strong supporter of fueless energy. Yet this problem – climate change – is much bigger than auto emissions.

Many ask what is going to happen in 2014. My answer is chaos. How much chaos depends on our decisions individually and collectively – how much we resist change.

There are two things people resist and fear the most – change and the unknown. Change is coming and the unknown is going to be made known. All that was suppressed, covered up, held back, is going to come forward. The power elite, the banksters, the puppet governments and their agencies are going to be real busy cleaning up the mess, doing damage control as their dubious deeds rise to the surface. It is like a black kettle of smelly fish boiling over as the energy increases.

The fueless energy, alternative cures and the exposure of those who suppressed them will come forward as well. The lame stream media will eventually come to the realization the masses are awakening, no longer listening and they have lost all credibility. Ever wonder why they are trying to give away newspapers? Subscriptions are in the toilet. People are turning off their TVs and going to alternative news for the truth. This is bad for business and we all know money talks.

Advertisers pay according to ratings. So they are doomed to eventually tell the truth and it will be sensational. When main stream news came out to film ”Debunk” (the ships) they were in awe when the ships appeared. I debunked the NASA and government debunkers before they even started telling them we are using your data to prove these are not space shuttles, space stations, satellites or known man made objects. They referred to objects landing on Mt Adams, morphing into three objects and leaving with jets chasing them as the space shuttle.

Officialdom at its best. Now who is looking ridiculous? The UFO topic took their ratings to a record-breaking high which the advertisers love. So will end the cover-up because covering UFOs will be driven by profit. ABC, Fox News, History Channel, Paranormal State, Danny Dyer Special, and other coverages are all on the site, http://www.eceti.org. Breakthroughs in alternative energy and healing technology will soon follow not just through alternative media but eventually in the main, “lame” stream media.

We need to pay close attention to the Earth as well as incoming objects from space over the next two years. There will be many leaks as well as disinformation concerning incoming objects. We are getting a lot of help in this arena. Our off-world brothers and sisters have destroyed or diverted may incoming asteroids and comets much to the amazement of many top scientists who headed for the hills leaving the masses uninformed. This is where our own inner sensitivity, our BS meter needs to be set on high. The alignment with Galactic Plane, Alcyon and entering the dark rift will get very exciting. The Earth is already reacting to these energies as well as the Sun which is a major driver for change.

We need to pay even closer attention to the illuminati, their genocidal programs such as HAARP, weather wars, chemtrails, gulf oil spills, corexit toxicity, inoculations, GMOs, and now Fukushima radiation. Research Morgellans disease if you want to know the big picture. It is referred to as Satan’s dream by many physicists.

Know where your water and food are coming from and what is in them. Fresh clean water has already exceeded oil in value which is why the elite are buying up the fresh water around the world. We have to get out of our Pollyanna program, take the blinders off and realize what ever way possible to profit and control the people will be rolled out by these malevolent puppets of the archons which have an agenda of major population reduction and feed off the pain and suffering, the lower frequencies necessary to maintain their world.

Research the archons and ancient references to them. Know there are many levels to the hierarchy when it comes to power and control over the masses. It is time to be brutally honest as to whether we are willingly serving the beast, or turning a blind eye due to a false sense of security. There is no security in engaging in actions that are harmful to humanity and the Earth. There is only universal law and a reaction.

It is time for love in action. Standing firm in your own divinity as well as your own God/Spirit/Creator given rights. Many are spelled out in the Bill of Rights and there is no valid reason for trespassing on those rights. Those who serve in official government capacity took an oath. It is time to revisit that oath and apply it with impeccable integrity and honor. Our forefathers said those who give up freedom for safety are neither free or safe. Those who have abandoned their oath and are in breech of trust will be held accountable in the days to come.

Universal Law is God/Spirit/Creator law. Universal law is pressing hard upon the Earth. As we said before those who are not evolving, aligning with Universal Law and cannot match the new frequencies of Earth will go into chaos and eventually implode. Their temples, empires, and their physical bodies will not endure.

It is time to transcend all cultural and religious boundaries into unity consciousness. Love and Kindness are the first and foremost practice of any enlightened being. Judging, condemning and warring on the other children of God is no longer acceptable.

The war and disease profiteers will see the reactions to their actions. Being lord over the physical does not exempt one from karma and justice from the higher levels of consciousness. These higher levels have fully engaged the Earth. Diversity is just another expression of Source yet we cannot trespass on those who believe differently, have different names and images most of which end up at the same place. As long as those beliefs do not harm humanity or the Earth they are to be honored as another expression of God. There has been more pain, suffering and death due to religion than service, empowerment and assistance in making ones own personal God/Spirit?Creator connection.

I have prayed and meditated with masters from every culture who hold universal law first and foremost in their teachings. I have seen their archetypes, sign posts of transcendence, representations of positive attributes and nature. Each path leads to the same place. We all came from Creator. We all return to the same Creator and we all have our cultural names and images. When the God spark within ignites to the full flame you become all cultures, all names and images.

As Buddha said the whole universe is within. Knowing this how can you harm or take from another? How can you operate outside of universal law without the awareness of consequences?

What is it about Omnipresence we don’t comprehend? Would that not include you, others in all their diversity, all inanimate and animate, all life? Is it not the goal to become one with God? Is it not written there are no divisions in God? Love God/Spirit/Creator with all your heart, honor each individual the whole of life in all its expressions as unique expressions of God/Spirit/Creator. It is really that simple this is Universal Law in a nut shell.

There are also understandings of what happens when we step outside of Universal Law often referred to as Karma or Action/Reaction as spelled out by all the prophets and masters. We have to get back to basics to get through these times. We need to make Love and Kindness our religion, our practice, our way. We are also going to have to set boundaries with those who do not practice Love and Kindness, who act outside of Universal Law.

It was never the plan of the forefathers, those truly in service to God to be governed by predators and parasites where war, disease, injustice, manufactured lack and the enslavement through dependency are common place. This is all unsustainable. It is not in alignment with universal law or the evolution of Earth. It is not frequency specific therefore chaos will ensue as these barbaric ways either transmute or disassemble.

Change and making the unknown known will be unfolding. That which is not evolving will devolve, implode in the quickening. As the 5D grid and Universal Law press hard upon humanity and the Earth there will be a great unraveling. It is time to flow with the process, make any necessary changes and again practice love and kindness in all that you do. This means loving yourself as well and setting any necessary boundaries with those choose a different path.

Be well, Happy New Year.

James Gilliland
http://www.eceti.org
http://www.bbsradio.com
http://www.worldpuja.net

Pamina Mullins ~ 20 Good Reasons to Have Clear Personal Boundaries

This post originally appeared on the HSP Blog. HSP stands for “Highly Sensitive People,” which I know many of my readers and clients are. I also know that in my own life, 2009-2013 has felt like earning an intensive college degree in setting clear personal boundaries. Intuition and empathy can both help and hinder that process. Pamina’s article explains why we might want to build those boundaries anyway, even when doing so becomes uncomfortable. Go ahead: it’s good for you! Plus, with all the upheaval and chaos these days, you’ll need to rebuild a lot of things anyway. In creating your New, why not start with firm foundations and clear boundaries? 🙂

20 Good Reasons to Have Clear Personal Boundaries
By Pamina Mullins

I was struck recently by the exceptionally high number of clients I see, whose inability to set firm personal boundaries is resulting in supersonic stress levels. Smart business people repeatedly compromised by unreliable colleagues, over demanding superiors or downright crooked clients; caring, supportive people with predatory partners or out of control children. People of integrity whose opportunistic friends, family or employees manipulate them mercilessly and drain their time and energy.

Why People Have Boundary Issues

Although their stories are all quite different, these are some common threads that connect people with boundary challenges: • They are all natural born givers and people pleasers. • Their personal boundaries are weak or non existent. • Their goals are fuzzy. • Their empathy triggers and guilt glands are super-sensitive. • They are popular. And that’s the clue. Sometimes the personal price you pay for this kind of popularity can be way too high. Depending on others to peg your value is a fast track to stress. Why? Because it means other people control your choices in everything you do. They always have the leverage advantage. This not only leads to self sabotage but it can be dangerous too.

The Danger Of Approval

Being overly dependent on other’s approval can make you go against everything you value, if the threat of exclusion from what you perceive as any kind of “inner circle” is terrifying enough. The plots of many thrillers are based on exactly this dynamic. We all crave validation and respect but at what cost? An inability to set healthy boundaries means sooner or later someone is going to have to pick up the slack—and your place in the popularity polls will plummet. The reason everyone loves you is probably because you do what they want—at the expense of what you want. Whose life is this anyway? Although it wasn’t always comfortable, growing up a wild child in a small town with an eccentric family certainly put people pleasing in its right place for me. I learned at an early age not to care too deeply about other people’s opinions. And this immunity to popular opinion helped me make my own rules. As far as I was concerned, if my actions gave those with empty lives something fascinating to focus on, I was performing a community service! When people praise or validate you, accept it; enjoy it, but don’t become dependent on it. You know whether you have done well or not. Next time you are tempted to cave in order to win popularity, consider these

20 Benefits Of Boundary Building

1. Setting boundaries saves time. 2. Setting boundaries builds respectful relationships. 3. Setting boundaries increases productivity—yours and everyone else’s. 4. Setting boundaries enables a team to work as a team—everyone is headed in the same direction, towards the same clear goals. 5. Setting boundaries builds accountability within your team—no passing the buck. 6. Setting boundaries stops you feeling overwhelmed, resentful, victimized and stressed. 7. Setting boundaries frees up energy and enthusiasm. 8. Setting boundaries fosters confidence, leadership, and organizational abilities. 9. Setting boundaries generates respect. 10. Setting boundaries aids concentration and decision making. 11. Setting boundaries creates a healthy balance between giving and taking. 12. Setting boundaries allows you to take care of your own wellbeing. 13. Setting boundaries leads to a happy, balanced life. 14. Setting boundaries minimizes misunderstanding and conflict. 15. Setting boundaries gives you a sense of control in your life. 16. Setting boundaries makes delegating more effective. 17. Setting boundaries teaches family and team members to think for themselves. 18. Setting boundaries vastly improves communication—everyone knows where they stand and what is expected of them. 19. Setting boundaries goes a long way towards preventing bullying. 20. Setting boundaries gives you an authentic sense of authority. Your boundary building expertise automatically acts as a map for the people who relate to you in any way.

The Benefits Of Strong Boundaries

Boundaries spell R E S P E C T on every level—and shape the way people respond to you. If you put inappropriate parts into a machine that is vital for production, will you get maximum production? Success requires putting the right people, with the right qualities, in the right place, for the right reasons—in every area of your life. Yes you might well have to do some reshuffling to accomplish this. And people pleasers find this very painful. They would rather struggle on for years, having their relationships, careers or health sabotaged, dragging the deadweight of dead wood behind them, silently picking up the slack and stressing themselves into ill health—than just take a stand. Drawing firm boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you care enough about the bigger picture, to take the necessary actions. It doesn’t mean you don’t like someone. It means you understand where they belong in your life—and where they don’t. It just means you are placing the right components in the right place to maximize the chances of a successful outcome for all. And yes, when you first install personal boundaries, you will face criticism. Not everyone will understand why, and some will take it personally, but they will get over it. And the wear and tear on your stress-o-meter will be worth it a thousand times over. What do you think?

Link to original article

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Tom Lescher/Kaypacha ~ September 11, 2013 Weekly Pele Report

Tough Love from T.L. Booyah! Rock it, Kaypacha. 🙂 I have soooo been feeling this, both in my own life and observing clients and the world stage. Boundaries seem particularly on the table of issues to deal with — physical, emotional, mental, spiritual — all the levels are getting major pushback. No more Mr./Ms. or Mrs. Nice Guy Doormat.

Enough is enough, and no, the world is not the patriarchy’s personal poop yard. Neither is our yard, the unleashed neighborhood dog’s personal poop yard — well, not for much longer. Project Dog Detective is in effect. Then comes more vigilant fencing, then come the warnings, and after that? Project Faery Hound. 😉 In all seriousness, we’re in an increased phase of needing to strengthen boundaries on all levels. People tend to project their own ideas of what’s appropriate onto others, thinking “Oh, I’ll just be nice. Surely, they won’t continue abusing the privilege or become obnoxious.” Well, sometimes that’s not the case. Sometimes we do need to speak up, shore up boundaries and strengthen our resolve. If you’ve already been feeling that, get ready for more.

From Tom/Kaypacha:

I have a right to be angry and get fired up,
When giving voice to the Goddess whose had enough.
For by piercing the silence imposed from without,
We create a new world worth shouting about!

“This week is all about 11’s, a master number to help us clean up some of the messes around here! We are all being called to task these days and it can be hard. It is a time to face the wind as strong, cold, or hard as it is and with determination forge a new world order (beginning with our own inner reality, then close relationships, then larger and larger circles of influence).

“The challenge afforded us through these times is to integrate the feminine qualities of softness, feeling, and inclusiveness into our personal and social lives. The old, easy way is when the going gets tough, we turn callous, cold, and hard….. let’s see if that can change into a strength that includes rather than excludes the wisdom of the feminine.

“In this report I mentioned a Lilith webinar I am giving as part of the EA network and a series I will be offering next month titled ‘Relationship and Intimacy in the Horoscope.’ You can find out more about both of these on my website http://www.NewParadigmAstrology.com I also mentioned the work of Mark Josephs-Serra that can be found at http://www.socialalchemy.eu Namaste’!”