Denial and Liberation

I came across a post from January 2016, early on in the United States’ first Pluto Return. Now, almost six years later, we’re much closer to exact. As we enter Scorpio season, even more Plutonian energies arise from the depths. I’ve updated the post for late 2021, but it didn’t require much tweaking. We are in it! Fortunately, after the death and destruction, Pluto and Scorpio specialize in rebirth, regeneration and renewal. When we face our shame and fears, we transmute them. This post explores some ways to do that:

Charles Dickens said it, and I agree, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.”

After so many phone sessions and other conversations, I feel I need to re-acknowledge that yes, amidst all the insanity out there, all the people dying, lockdowns and mandates, supply chain disruptions, the supposedly tanking global economy, all the long term relationships splitting up, and whatever else your news feed, neighbors or own life is stirring up … I can assure you that some truly wonderful, magical, long held dreams, and heartfelt desires are coming into being. All. Over. The. World. People I know, clients, friends, relatives … some real, live people are right this moment finding roads to authenticity and peace spread wide before them.

Tania Marie and I were discussing this polarity today — of extraordinarily amazing things happening while the rest of the world seems to fall apart — and we agree that one key factor is how someone deals with denial.

For people who’ve spent months, years or decades facing down their Shadows, inner demons, and the exasperating uncertainties of life, the world’s chaos keeps opening and aligning grand opportunities for healing, joy and liberation. To quote Nietzsche, “Remember, one must have chaos inside in order to birth a dancing star.” If that idea challenges you, then you might want to treat yourself to some remedial Joanna Macy.

Like it or not, denial continues to become more and more difficult to maintain.

I’ve watched without surprise as supposedly “perfect relationships” “broke up out of nowhere … people who’ve been together forever!” Only the rosiest glasses could have failed to read the writing on those couples’ walls, and yet … many bystanders find themselves reeling with shock right now. Relationship endings can disappoint and traumatize, but when a relationship requires one or both people to live a lie in order to maintain it, then the energies of our times no longer support that relationship. We live in awakening times. You can fight awakening and the responsibility it brings, but not without consequences.

For as many people grieving the loss of a relationship, I know at least as many people celebrating their liberation from co-dependence and/or abuse. The current energies support the desire and right to live in mutual respect. Current energies also support the courage to demand that respect and the means to leave situations in which others refuse to honor healthy and respectful boundaries.

Regardless of heart strings — or maybe because of the strong pull on them right now — denial no longer remains an easy option. 

Whether in other countries or inside your own private turmoil, if you want support from the current energies, it’s time to look your fear in the face. Contrary to the saying, not all fear is “false evidence appearing real.” Sometimes fear comes as a valid warning of things way out of balance. Learning to discern real fear can help you to avoid unnecessary trauma. You don’t want to get swallowed or paralyzed by fear, but assessing the situation that triggered fear and then addressing that situation, opens possibilities for positive change and renewal. Refusing to assess and address fearful situations does not make them go away. It turns them into bigger Shadows, threats and manifested traumas until you learn to navigate the scary spots.

Read some faery tales. The real ones, not Disney. Real wisdom lies hidden in those stories from the Brothers Grimm and old folk tales. Happy endings don’t always occur, but when they do, they happen because the hero or heroine faced the fear, activated creativity, and managed to align with help from beyond. You can do that, too. Whatever fear or despair you face, whatever floor just dropped from underneath you, you can find a way to integrate that experience into a rich, authentic and ultimately more fulfilling life trajectory. Loss of innocence hurts, but it also heals.

If you’re one of those magical people experiencing all manner of blessings in life right now, don’t feel afraid to share your stories, triumphs and joy with others. People need to know of other possibilities. They need to know a phoenix can and does rise from its own funeral pyre. Don’t feel ashamed of your blessings. It’s OK to ask for help, but it’s also perfectly permissible — necessary even — to scatter pixie dust and radiate joy to a scared and grieving world.

Peace in, peace out.

13 responses to this post.

  1. I love it.  Cant just click LIKE without signing in and being redirected but from me to you Thank You.

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  2. Whoa! This resonates like crazy. Thanks Laura. ❤

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  3. Posted by Deanna on October 21, 2021 at 11:52 am

    Your posts are always so perfectly timed. Alone in a sea of opposing opinions can be daunting..one feels like they can’t even speak freely.

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  4. ❤ loving the lightheartedness of your post.

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  5. Thank you

    As we spoke of, mid to late October is here

    It feels like a switch has been turned on

    My natal moon at Aries 28 degrees

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  6. Thank you. This was a beautiful, profound and – for me – a timely post. xo

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  7. Posted by manyhahama1955 on October 25, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    Thank you, Laura, for this great post. I really resonated with it and esp. with this paragraph… “Learning to discern real fear can help you to avoid unnecessary trauma. You don’t want to get swallowed or paralyzed by fear, but assessing the situation that triggered fear and then addressing that situation, opens possibilities for positive change and renewal. Refusing to assess and address fearful situations does not make them go away. It turns them into bigger Shadows, threats and manifested traumas until you learn to navigate the scary spots.” Thanks for putting words to things I feel or experience. Really right on! Peace be with you, always!

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