Alternative Tim Martin Remembrance

Thank you to everyone who’s left comments, emails or caring texts about our sweet friend’s sudden journey into the Otherworld. David and I are doing as well as can be expected. I feel so blessed to be able to use my gifts, skills and experience to help support Tim’s daughter Eimhear (“ever”) through this process. For me, this has been so helpful in my own grieving, as I know I am giving the greatest gift I could possibly offer Tim. She’s doing surprisingly well now that she knows her dad is very much in her corner, giving her signs and support and messages during this difficult time.

Eimhear’s mother (Tim’s lovely ex-wife Kathleen) started a GoFundMe site that explains how and why they’re going about things in a non-traditional way. Because of Tim’s reverence for the Earth, they’re allowing no chemicals into his body, which means no viewing, a cremation, and for now, they’re having just a private family ceremony. Eimhear and Kathleen initially contacted me to help plan a very “Tim” kind of wake or send-off, but as we’ve discussed options, a less “out there” ceremony for family members feels most supportive right now.

Kathleen started the GoFundMe page because a lot of people really loved Tim. So many people have contacted her asking if they can send flowers to the funeral home. As Kathleen says, “We understand Tim touched many people who are left shocked by his sudden passing who would appreciate the opportunity to express their grief in some manner, so we have opened this Gofundme in lieu of flowers that may have been sent to a viewing. Any funds donated will go exclusively to help cover Eimhear’s college expenses that Tim had previously taken care of.”

Please understand this is not a “please give money” post, but rather an option for those who loved Tim to be able to do something tangible in their grief. I know being able to offer tangible support to Kathleen and Eimhear has made this a beautiful, though difficult journey, so I wanted to share this opportunity for anyone who feels so led. Whether you knew Tim or not, if you’ve read this blog for the past 2.5 years, you’ve been touched by Tim. He was a huge presence in our lives and a rich source of inspiration and ideas, which he continues to be in so many ways. You can read more and/or donate by clicking here.

 

5 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by manyhahama1955 on December 19, 2017 at 5:36 pm

    Oh Laura, I am so sorry to hear of Tim’s transition. And, yet, like you said he is everywhere now and always…there is no separation like we think there is. My condolences to his family and friends. He sounds like he was quite an amazing being…may you all celebrate his life and the love he bestowed on all who knew him. Peace and love, Sophia

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  2. Thank you, Sophia! Yes, it’s a weird dichotomy, as he’s still VERY chatty, just with a different kind of “text,” but the physical and emotional realms are complex. They don’t always make sense, do they. Yes, he was and is an amazing being. Much love, Laura

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  3. Posted by Chrisls on December 19, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    As I’m sure you know, I’m not particularly in tune with the mysteries of this life & beyond…but allow that there are things beyond my very left-oriented brain’s comprehension. I enjoyed Tim’s open, witty, kind, creative, seeking, contemplative, & challenging presence. I love to think of him as Tim Bombadil…thank you for sharing that in your remembrance. There were many layers to Tim, I was fortunate to glimpse a few. He was so comfortable being himself…making it easier for me to be myself in his presence. He was not defensive or evangelical about his path, but open about his journey and able to meet others where they were at on their own journey. I thought I had much more time to know Tim in this world. Right now I can still hear his voice in my head & struggle to believe I won’t see him tomorrow, or maybe the next day. So while I have no idea how this works, please tell him hello & let him know he is greatly missed.

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  4. Thank you for sharing your experience of Tim, Chris. I’ve relayed your message, and he is just so touched by how much everyone appreciated him. Always a humble one, I don’t think he had any idea what a positive, quiet influence he had just by being himself.

    Hope to see you sometime in the new year!
    Peace to you and your family,
    Laura

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  5. After I started calling him Tim Bombadil, he listened to the audio version of Lord of the Rings to and from work this summer. When he visited us, Tim and I used to sing “Hey, Tim Bombadil, hey, Bombadillo,” much to David’s amusement. It’s ever so catchy and a sweet way to remember him. šŸ™‚

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