Golden Tickets and Enough Rope

Whenever energies grow particularly potent, the Universe sends out another batch of “golden tickets,” à la “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.” Intense desire to better one’s life summons unusual circumstances governed by “chance” or “fate,” synchronizing into the opportunity of a lifetime. As Carl Jung noted: “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate. That is to say, when the individual remains undivided and does not become conscious of his inner opposite, the world must perforce act out the conflict and be torn into opposing halves.” Golden tickets can reveal truly golden characters, or they can arrange for circumstances to destroy lives as a result of rotten characters made visible.

This past month, and especially the last couple weeks, offered golden tickets galore to both private individuals and those on very public stages. I’ve seen this with clients, friends, former clients and others I’ve helped in secret behind the scenes, but even cursory glances at headlines reveal opportunities for more famous people to make a clean, definitive break with “the way things were” and truly embrace new realities, relief, and freedom. Golden tickets do not erase the past; however, they do bring with them “enough rope to save yourself or hang yourself.” In fact, golden tickets push inner indecision to the forefront, forcing people to take some kind of decisive action with that rope.

As with characters in any good story, we each hold within us both light and shadow, along with the potential for both courage and cowardice. Some people’s Shadows are darker and murkier than others, and some people’s courage hides itself more thoroughly than others. When a golden ticket arrives, even people with very dark Shadows and self sabotage programs who never managed to summon enough courage to break away from old patterns before — these people in possession of a shiny golden ticket suddenly find themselves with a chocolate factory full of highly visible opportunities to demonstrate their character.

Of course, we hope that everyone will be a Charlie Bucket, but we find plenty of Violet Beauregarde’s and Veruca Salts. Sometimes, we find a real Arthur Slugsworth. More often, we find people for whom we really do want to root, but we’re just not sure what they’ll do with this golden ticket. Such people might even have a great deal of charisma and somehow manage to beat the odds and summon multiple golden tickets throughout their lives, but maybe we’ve already seen them squander two golden tickets. Maybe we sense the ticket they now hold has attached itself to a more decisive rope. Will they save themselves or hang themselves? Will they win the chocolate factory or definitively reveal themselves as bad eggs or cowards?

Golden tickets force the truth forward in the form of enough rope. Unless we engage in vindictive Shadenfreude, we generally hope people use that rope to save themselves, envisioning how they could then use that same rope to inspire and lend a helping tug to others. But what happens when they don’t? What happens when someone’s responses to his or her golden ticket reveal the worst and weakest, rather than the best of inner character? What happens when someone with a golden ticket doubles down on that response?

In a golden ticket situation, the differences between someone we know and/or love saving themselves and hanging themselves become so apparent as to shine light in even the deepest corners of cognitive dissonance, hopium and our desire to believe that anyone can change. Depending on our relationship with the person squandering the golden ticket, we reach our own decisive point of trying to shake some sense into the person, walking away, and/or removing our entanglements and any enabling behaviors. Turning our backs on someone who has squandered a golden ticket  can feel like a lonely, disillusioned, and sorrowful time, but it also offers a vicarious opportunity to make a decisive change in our own lives.

As revelations, extreme life challenges and health crises often summon golden tickets, we will continue to witness (and sometimes even experience) the corresponding length of rope. As individuals, and as a society. Western culture is itself in an extensive golden ticket moment. What will we, as participants, decide to do with our opportunity? What will we, as individuals, choose to do in our own lives to honor courage and truth? Not pseudo-courage that hides behind ideologies or other people … and not slippery truth whose words promise all manner of contradictory things in an effort to pass the rope.

As I’ve mentioned before, I find fiction a useful medium for exploring consciousness and a variety of what if’s. I’ve recommended Starhawk’s novels as both prophetic and highly useful tools for navigating our now, but many novels or films with well developed characters can help us gain clarity on the miasma of light and shadow, courage and cowardice, truth and lies. Some interesting viewing for our times includes: “The Big Short,” “Revolutionary Road,” and on a more mythological level, “The Neverending Story,” as well as Tolkien’s “The Lord of the Rings” trilogy. This is our story, too. How we respond matters. As in, creates matter. Form. Reality.

People struggling with suspected narccisistic abuse might want to check out M. Scott Peck’s classic, “People of the Lie,” along with the resources on Those who suspect they might be dealing with someone exhibiting borderline personality disorder might also appreciate Mason and Kreger’s book, “Stop Walking on Eggshells.” Those who just want to make sure they don’t squander their own golden ticket might want to read T. Thorn Coyle’s “Make Magic of Your Life.” Trust your gut on this one. The heart and mind get all sorts of entanglements, but your body knows when you need to remove yourself from a situation or person.

These are not easy times, but remember, “Whenever energies grow particularly potent, the Universe sends out another batch of ‘golden tickets,’ à la ‘Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.'” Huge potentials exist for those who step into courage, love and boundless imagination:

Willy Wonka: Oh, And Charlie? Do not forget about the guy who got everything he wanted!

Charlie Bucket: Oh, What happened to him?

Willy Wonka: Well, he lived happily ever after.


Big blessings, love and support along your journey…


16 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Kieron on August 24, 2016 at 1:31 pm

    Masterful essay. As it happens, in the other screen tab, at this moment, I have Bernhard Guenther’s essay on “Spiritual Bypassing, Relationships and the Shadow.” (It’s the same author as the “Time-Line Reality Split” I recently referenced to you). Like your essay, this essay a pull-back of those nooks, crannies and crevices that haven’t seen a broom in recent years.

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  2. great post! and of course you know i love the references and metaphors 😉 ❤

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  3. Reblogged this on Reiki Dawn and commented:
    This felt like a good one to share right now from Laura Bruno. Love the Willis Sonia references. Thank you Laura❤️💜



  4. Posted by Seattle72 on August 24, 2016 at 4:21 pm

    Helpful and timely. Something that rings especially true for me is accepting responsibility for my choices. As you know, I’m recovering from a recent failed relationship. I had a few really great realizations early on, but quickly sunk back into blame and victim mode. I wanted to blame him for everything! He was the narcissist, not me. He behaved poorly, without honor, not me. He’s the “bad guy”, not me. How could any of that be my fault? (curious little switch-a-roo there…)

    Then I took a moment to reacquaint myself with the links regarding Narcissism. I found a good sized nugget to chew on that reinforces the more constructive realizations early on.

    At first I kept saying I couldn’t blame him for us not being right for each other. I can’t blame anyone for incompatibility. Right? As those thoughts were coming to a finish I realized, that, in fact, we were actually a perfect match. In the space I was choosing to embody, the space of the inverted narcissist, we were actually perfect for each other. Thoughts then turned toward my responsibility for making choices that allowed me to inhabit that space of a kind of codependent. Brings lyrics of a song by Rush to mind “if you choose not to decide you still have made a choice”, by slipping back into the familiar dysfuctional head space of a victim, I had made a choice to not inhabit a more authentic space.

    I can’t help what happened in the past, but I can help the choices I make now and whether or not I perpetuate the identity pushed on to me as a child or find the courage in my heart to expand on the essence of my authentic self.

    It’s not a panacea, I’m not suddenly “cured”, but I am able to shift into a different space, the option of inhabiting the space of accepting responsibility for the choices I’ve made as an adult, is available to me.

    Anyway, thanks so much for the post. I needed to read this today! 🙂

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  5. Posted by cabfareproductions on August 24, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    Love the Willy Wonka references, really good writing!

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  6. Posted by on August 24, 2016 at 5:41 pm

    Wow. You made my day, Laura Bruno!And I’ve meant to say thank you for your recent insight on Donald Trump. I’m a proud supporter, unaffected by the media big lies. My views shifted after Climategate and I began to see a globalist agenda and corresponding media deceptions I’d been unaware of before. So when anti-globalist Trump announced his run and the media went on the attack, I did my own research and everything I found strengthened my support. The Trumpenstein monster they created with his name and face is literally the opposite of the real man. But as I’m sure you’re aware, some have been so thoroughly propagandized that it would take a cult deprogrammer to wake them up.Below is one of my favorite, definitive and obscure pieces – I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. I can send you many more if you like, I horde them :]Thank you for all your eloquent insights!Linda”Donald Trump: “[T’he dearest, most thoughtful, most loyal, most caring man” in public, the Republican candidate’s kindness wins loyalty in private – excerpt:For 26 years, [Norma] Foerderer was Mr. Trump’s top aide, becoming his vice president. […] No one knew so well both the personal and business side of Mr. Trump. [She] gave me her only in-depth interview about Donald. Foerderer said there are two Donald Trumps: the “outrageous” one that utters brash comments on television and the real one that only she and other insiders know.”I mean Donald can be totally outrageous, but outrageous in a wonderful way that gets him coverage.” […] The private Mr. Trump, on the other hand, is “the dearest, most thoughtful, most loyal, most caring man,” Foerderer said. That caring side inspires loyalty and is one of his secrets to his success. Foerderer began with Mr. Trump in February 1981 as a secretary. […] After interviewing Foerderer for two minutes, Donald hired her. […] At the time, he had only seven employees. Foerderer found that Donald had no files: He retained everything in his head, and his lawyer kept his contracts.”Donald is such a man of vision,” Foerderer said. “He allows you to do whatever you want.” […] Foerderer found that Mr. Trump “instills in you the desire to do more and more and more, and you want to please him. And yet he rarely criticizes. I mean he would, if you did something stupid. He allows you to expand, if you come in with an idea, he’ll say, ‘Fine, run with it, and see what you do.’ This motivates and challenges you even more, and you want to please him because you admire him so much.”Barbara Res experienced the same freedom when Mr. Trump hired her in September 1980 to be in charge of building the 68-story Trump Tower on Fifth Avenue. Female executives in the construction business were almost non-existent, but Mr. Trump put his faith in her and told her he wanted her to “treat everything as if it were my project and my money and I would be his final word,” she says.Mr. Trump taught Foerderer how to negotiate and would brag about her ability. “Well, I learned from the master,” she said. […] “I’ve sat in on meetings with lawyers where he introduces ideas to them that have merit,” Foerderer said. “I’ve seen him work with architects where he does the very same thing. He’ll take that big magic marker and slash it here or there and change and create rooms. It works. Everybody stands around like dummies because they didn’t realize this could be done.”Mr. Trump is the opposite of presidential candidate Hillary Clinton, who is so nasty to her Secret Service agents that being assigned to her detail is considered a form of punishment. When Mr. Trump bought Mar-a-Lago, he kept on 70-year-old gardeners who could barely pull weeds but had worked loyally for Marjorie Merriweather Post on the estate she built in 1927.The Trump Organization has 22,450 employees, but when Donald’s Palm Beach butler Tony Senecal had heart problems, Mr. Trump visited him in the hospital and insisted that he stay at Mar-a-Lago – a paradise that spans both sides of the island – to recuperate. When Foerderer began having a problem with her eyes and had to stay at home, Mr. Trump called her every week and sent her baskets of gourmet food.In contrast to some Palm Beach clubs that to this day do not admit blacks or Jews, Mr. Trump made it a point of admitting them, earning the ire of the town’s Old Guard. As I interviewed Mr. Trump on his plane, he imitated the constricted, nasal tones of blue bloods condemning his club because it does not discriminate.Foerderer believed she clicked with Donald because she was completely honest with him. “As I came to know him, I realized that Donald is a tremendous man, and I admire him enormously, but if I disagree on something, I would be the first to say to him, ‘Donald, I don’t think so,'” she said. In turn, people appreciate the multibillionaire’s candor, another key to his success, she said.Asked what she would tell others who want to succeed, Foerderer said, “I would tell them to dream, and to have a vision and a goal. Think about what you want to do, love it, and if you love it enough, you’ll realize your dreams. That’s what Donald’s done.”• Ronald Kessler, a former Washington Post reporter, is the author of “The First Family Detail: Secret Service Agents Reveal the Hidden Lives of the Presidents” (Crown Forum, 2014).

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    • Thanks, Linda! Glad you found this helpful. I am not sure what Trump posts you mean, but glad to have made your day! Big blessings and wishes for the best possible outcome. 😀



  7. Posted by Linette on August 24, 2016 at 6:58 pm

    I, too, enjoyed the Willy Wonka references…it remains one of my favorite moves and books (the original movie with Gene Wilder, not the creepy Johnny Depp version!) 🙂 I hope when my Golden Ticket appears, I will do justice to Charlie and Grandpa and Mr. Wonka.

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