Another Update on My Dad

(More recent updates in comments, too…)

Hi, and thank you again to everyone sending prayers, love, healing and support to my dad, me, and my entire family. There are an increasing number of moving parts and decisions, so timing and outcome are very difficult to predict. I spent much of yesterday in conversation, emails and texts with my mom, brother, sister and my neurologist uncle, as my dad’s situation keeps shifting hour by hour.

David and I are packing and have arranged for an immediate road trip if needed; however, the original timing still works best for everyone if things ease up. Much of that depends on my dad’s decisions, which we are all trying to honor, giving him as much dignity and agency as possible, while also still looking out for his short term health and overall quality of life. His health situation remains quite complex, with competing priorities resulting in highly different choices right now.

I am at peace with my father and on very good terms, as well as able to communicate telepathically, with repeatedly verified results, so David and I are just trying to ensure that the timing of our visit provides the most support and least disruption for everyone — including my sister, Erica, who is currently shouldering most of the local responsibility, while also being a mom to my two nephews, who are very close to their grandpa.

My brother is considering another trip to PA, but again, the on-the-ground logistics and my dad’s pending decisions largely determine what would be appropriate, supportive timing. My mom’s holding up pretty well and receives a lot of support and encouragement from her church, too. Speaking of church, my sister is reading my dad’s speech to all five of the services, beginning last night. He was unable to deliver his own stories of the power of prayer in his life, but he’s very grateful that my sister was willing and able to do so on his behalf. I’m sure there will not be a dry eye in all five services!

In any case, I appreciate the ongoing care, support and concern from everyone here and elsewhere. In terms of sessions this week, there are potential scenarios in which everything’s perfectly fine in PA, and David and I leave with the original timing, in which case, all scheduled sessions remain as is. With so many decisions, personalities and shifts, I need to have the flexibility to travel at a moment’s notice, and so it’s possible that I might need to make last minute changes. In that event, I promise to reschedule as soon as possible. I’m not not-scheduling future sessions (in other words, I am scheduling future sessions) because there are trajectories in which this week through six months are perfectly fine, and other trajectories in which this week, three weeks or two months from now become chaotic.

Until my dad’s situation stabilizes, I will just need to be a little more fluid than usual in terms of scheduling. Thank you for understanding, and again, thank you for your care and concern. This will likely be my last update regarding my dad until we have a much better sense of which path he decides to take.

Much love and gratitude, Laura

 

19 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature on February 28, 2016 at 3:07 pm

    Bless bless bless you and your family.
    Love,
    Mary

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    • Thanks and love, Mary!

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    • Thank you so much, Mary. My dad said he felt all the prayers immediately. After each of my sister’s readings of his speech, the ministers asked the entire congregation to pray for him and our family and they did so for three minutes each time. My sister has attended that church for 39 years and has never seen them halt a service for one person’s prayer request, and they did it during five services. Many people were deeply touched, and my mom also felt a huge surge of support.

      My dad agreed to go to the hospital once he realized that my brother and I would both be there to take care of all the paperwork and other things falling through the cracks. I’ve had my very mixed feelings about living in Goshen, but it was certainly the perfect spot for this, as it provided my brother a good place to sleep on his way to PA, and he can pick me up on his way.

      My mom said that the ER staff was the most caring she has ever seen. Ever. I spoke with my dad’s nurse there this morning, and she was lovely. He’s sleeping soundly and stable. Thank you again! ❤

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  2. Posted by sky on February 28, 2016 at 3:36 pm

    Laura, thank you for this update. I am glad to hear your sister is delivering your Dad’s testimony for him. I am sure that means a lot to him. Sending you wishes and energy for discerning the timing of your visit with your Dad. And for your visit to be a comforting coming together and sharing for all involved.

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    • Thank you, Sky. My brother drove to Goshen from Chicago area, and he and I are going to PA today. David will drive as planned on Saturday. My dad’s in the ER, but stable and will be admitted today. He got another platelet infusion and was sleeping soundly when I called. All is falling into place. Thanks for the prayers and intentions! 🙂

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  3. Posted by Cheryl on February 28, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    Holding you all in my heart, Laura. Hugs!

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  4. Love, love, love to you all

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  5. Posted by helix1581 on February 28, 2016 at 6:03 pm

    Love, hugs and prayers to all of you, Laura xxx

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  6. Posted by James G on February 28, 2016 at 6:37 pm

    Sending a little magic with love, hugs and strength your way. ❤️

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  7. Blessings dear Laura!
    So glad to hear that your sister was able to share your Dad’s message.
    There won’t be a dry eye for sure!
    Listen for the OM waves of the chime, we are thinking of you in heart and mind.
    As James G says so splendidly,
    Sending a little magic with love, hugs and strength your way!
    xoxo Sri Devi, Ashtar Ron, and Michi

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    • Thank you so much Sri Devi, Ashtar Ron and Michi! The OM waves of that chime are so powerful. I always feel them right away. 🙂 I’ve updated some things in the comments but need to get ready for our trip now. love, gratitude and blessings … xoxo Laura

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  8. Posted by sky on February 29, 2016 at 5:18 pm

    I said a prayer for your trip with your brother and for your upcoming time with your Dad. May angels accompany you on your trip and during your time with your Dad, too. Big ((HUG)) from me to you.

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  9. Posted by Ann Roberts on March 1, 2016 at 3:29 am

    Oh Laura I feel like I know you after all these years and my heart and prayers are with you and your family!

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