Masters of Love

This is a link to a copyrighted piece in the Atlantic regarding the importance of kindness in marriages or long term relationships. It goes beyond the obvious and gives some well-researched insights into why relationships flourish or fall apart. I will say that from my own experience in relationships and especially from what I hear day in, day out in sessions, this article rings true. Click here to read “Masters of Love.”

15 responses to this post.

  1. Thanks for the link!

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  2. Thanks, I have alway feared the idea of marriage. Then, today, I pulled cards about both Marriage, and a New Relationship… I’d be much happier if I’d just pulled the New Relationship card. I just hope it isn’t me getting married.

    Never married myself, but I sent the link to my sisters. I still thought about my relationships, while reading this. You don’t have to be romantically involved to have this help you, family and friends do the same ‘bids.’

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  3. Reblogged this on Reiki Dawn and commented:
    Had to share this. Great article. Thank you for your comments Laura as well as post. I was just having this discussion with a dear friend. Love that this post of yours popped up in the middle of it.

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  4. Wonderful synchronicity, Dawn! πŸ™‚

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  5. Good point, peacenowflower!

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  6. You’re welcome, Bryan!

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  7. Thanks for the link! Cheers!

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  8. Cheers!

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  9. Reblogged this on Tania Marie's Blog and commented:
    This is a great article about creating the kind of strong relationships that will flourish, be enriching, and long-lasting. Thanks Laura for sharing and for your additional comments.

    I feel that the insights are for any kind of relationship, not just marriages, and not just for romantic connections either.

    From my own experiences the insights from research shared in this article are indeed things I’ve come to find extremely true and important to what cultivates a healthy relationship that either has the potential to be long term or not.

    I believe true intimacy comes from things like being present, patient, having gentle kindness, sharing genuine engagement and interest, a lot of vulnerable, authentic and loving communication, mutual respect and honor, and as the article shares – active constructive responding.

    This is a great read with helpful insights to implement into your daily relating.

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  10. Posted by Demitra M. N. on November 17, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    If only “kindness” had a one-size-fits all meaning; it certainly would work without fail in all relationships if we would all simply agree that kindness in it’s true form is primarily a Service to Others focus. Conversely, a consistent preoccupation with self gain is a surefire way to commence poisoning any relationship.

    What I’ve discovered over the years is that a goodly number of people are so incredibly self-absorbed-sensitive that kindness in their lexicon amounts to respecting and agreeing with them all the time, otherwise their feelings become hurt and ‘you’ are thus responsible for the injury, and therefore, unkind.

    Still.. this is a very good article (it’s heart is certainly in the right place) and it is very true that sincerely caring for others and showing genuine interest in what matters to them is key.

    Thanks for sharing, Laura.. πŸ™‚

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  11. Thanks, as always, Demitra, for the additional insights and nuances. It’s true that language certainly has its limitations and inversions! I agree, though, the heart of the article is in the right place, and that’s also kind of a major point of the article — recognizing the good intentions for what they are even if imperfectly expressed. So thanks for highlighting that dynamic even embedded in the article itself! πŸ™‚

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  12. Thanks for the additional comments and insights, Tania! I agree — not just for marriages or romantic relationships, although I find that those are the ones “contempt” most often sneaks into. What’s that saying? “Familiarity breeds contempt.” So often, people behave in ways to their “dearest love” in which they would never consider acting towards a friend. At least, so I hear in sessions. πŸ™‚ Anyway, good advice for all relationships, with special reminders for those daily interactions.

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  13. you’re welcome! yes, i agree totally that for some reason, the ones we love most are where we seem to take liberties and a lot of stuff plays out in those interactions. that said, i’ve also seen similar in friendships and sometimes can be sneakier in that regard because there’s somehow, in some cases, more of an appearance filtering, but then i find that just creates deeper, hidden, shadow stuff that also often goes unacknowledged. good, good stuff all around so i’m glad you posted this, as it seems to be one of the important floating themes around, as part of deepening our experiences and connections that is going on, including the one we have with ourselves, which this kind of active constructive communicating with ourselves would also be darn good. πŸ˜‰

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  14. Definitely! πŸ™‚

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