A Special Message for Caregivers

For the past few months, I’ve been hearing from so many caregivers who are getting hammered by the intense energies right now. Any tendency towards co-dependency no longer has any support from the Universe, so dysfunctional patterns have become intolerable for people trying to support others through difficult times. It’s not that we can’t or shouldn’t offer support; however, if that support tends more towards co-dependency than empowerment for both parties, then the caregivers get blasted with their own health crises.Β 

Having been a caregiver myself, I understand the complex dynamics that go into caregiving, but I also recognize tendencies toward burnout. Especially in these times of intense change, disturbing revelations, and frequency specific versions of reality, caregivers truly need to spend more time in Nature, absorbing sunshine (which helps with the recalibration), and they need to take time for their own awakening. These are not optional “wouldn’t it be nice” steps, but imperative for caregivers at this time.

You cannot make someone else heal against their will. This has always been true, but our current times even more strongly emphasize the right and responsibility to choose realities. I’ve had a lot of recent sessions with caregivers defaulting into El Mundo Malo (the bad reality) due to sheer exhaustion, while the person receiving care continues to consume as much of their energy as they allow — without showing any signs of progress or appreciation. Not everyone will choose El Mundo Bueno (the good reality), because doing so involves facing deep Shadows and pain, while simultaneously taking responsibility for each choice point in life, including decisions that offer spontaneous healing.

Why would anyone go through that difficult process if someone makes his or her life work without needing to bother with such hassle? In this time of Great Choice, in which the Hopi say that every being needs to choose, the energies no longer support fully carrying another person’s load.Β  Caregivers can still hold the vision of wellness for their loved ones and still provide some services for them, but the Universe insists everyone make his or her own choice about liberation or recommitting to a very extended version of the same old, same old. Because these times so intensely emphasize choice, the energies actually punish anyone interfering with free will — even for someone else’s “own good.”.

Fortunately, some good resources exist, which support both caregiver and the one needing care. If you or someone you love has Lyme Disease, I highly recommend a new book called “Shifting the Lyme Paradigm: The caretakers’ guide on the hero’s journey.” A brilliant, heartwarming and insightful book, “Shifting the Lyme Paradigm” uses hero’s journeys such as Tolkien’s “Lord of the Rings” or Rowling’s “Harry Potter” as models for the hero’s journey, with emphasis on how Frodo’s and Harry’s friends support them. Frodo and Harry must face their destinies for themselves, though. Whether you know someone with Lyme or have Lyme Disease yourself, you’ll find wisdom and love in this wonderful, heartfelt book.

The following tips apply to any caregiver for someone with any health condition:

1) Remember to take at least five minutes to observe Nature each day. Get your hands in the dirt or hug a tree, or both. Nature’s ions and presence will reconnect you to the Earth, making your own transition easier and more fluid.

2) Spend at least fifteen minutes in the sun per day. (This can be combined with #1). The sun sends powerfully activating and healing rays, which ameliorate the spiky, harsh energies swarming around our planet right now. Tap into free solar power: sunshine helps you recharge your inner batteries.

3) Practice good energetic hygiene. People remember to wash their hands after dealing with ill people, but too often forget to take an energy bath when leaving someone else’s energy field. A quick sweep with your right hand down from left shoulder, down the arm, past the fingertips and then repeated on the other side, helps you to clear sticky residues of depression, victim mentality, oppression and/or different reality choices. Choosing to support someone through a difficult time does not mean joining them with your own preventable health crisis!

4) Remember to breathe, and with each conscious breath, affirm, “This, too, shall pass.” Because you know what? It will pass. And when it does, you’ll want to make sure you find yourself in a position to savor the newly released opportunities for freedom and joy.

Many blessings!


12 responses to this post.

  1. Reblogged this on Reiki Dawn and commented:
    Great tips and resource for those finding themselves in Caregiver roles especially in the energies that exist now. Thank you Laura!



  2. Regarding the time of Great Choice… This post stirs up a memory from when I was very young and very much into the “Choose your own adventure” books. You might remember them – the story would come to a fork in the road and instead of the writer deciding where the story went, the reader decided. I thought they were brilliant. πŸ™‚ Who knew those books were showing us the times to come?



  3. Reblogged this on Tania Marie's Blog and commented:
    A great post with helpful insights for people in caregiver roles or who find themselves always giving, trying to heal or change others. It goes wonderfully with my post on responsibilities: http://taniamarieartist.wordpress.com/2014/07/30/responsibilities-when-does-peace-of-mind-come/.

    Synchronously, before I posted yesterday’s article, I had actually written a different one that touched on “now relationships” and some of the exact key points Laura brought up, but then I discarded it. I love how connected we are and since she and I are always chiming in, I can see what led me to let it go in to the ethers – something I haven’t done before. It was like tuning into one channel, but then sensing it was covered, so then I jumped on another collective channel and yesterday’s “You Complete You” came through.

    Thank you Laura for a great post, as there are SO many people I know that could benefit from this.



  4. Posted by Nikkoale on August 14, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    As a caregiver, I instinctively seek out the sun and Nature. But I hadn’t thought about doing #3. Thanks for the advice, Laura! Spot on! As usual. πŸ™‚ (Spent the early morning under a Japanese maple waiting for 13 wild turkeys in my yard to come into view for my camera. Found some other magick going on under there as well. πŸ˜‰ )



  5. Posted by Erica on August 14, 2014 at 4:46 pm

    As a frequent caretaker in both my professional and personal life, I was delighted to read this as I am laying on the beach loving the sun’s warm embrace. I took today for myself to recalibrate and was already blessed with a BEAUTIFUL morning. I was literally the only one on the beach earlier, and I found some wonderful treasures–not the least of which were connection with the divine, nature, and a sense of true renewal. Amen!! Love to all the caregivers out there.. I’ve learned that when you start to feel obligated or drained, pull back.. Just like on a plane, focus on your own ability to breathe first.. The rest will fall into place.. ❀



  6. Posted by Lorraine on August 14, 2014 at 6:51 pm

    That’s a great relief!



  7. Posted by Sherry Joy on August 15, 2014 at 3:58 am

    Great…loved this…



  8. Reblogged this on Forever Unlimited and commented:
    If you are feeling this energetic assault, or feel at times like you are in an energetic boundary tug-of-war with someone, words to the wise:



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